chrisusarmy2005 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 This should be a great feeling but it feels like crap. Im starting all over,my stomach hurts everytime I see her. She has a new boyfriend, but she still dosn't want me to leave. I feel really down, hurt and was praying something,somehow would work out. As good as it should be I just don't feel right. I still love her and I will love her forever. I just feel really upset,put my 2wks in and just really hurting..... How can I make it through this really tough time? I love her beyond belief and I know no guy will love her as much as I do. This really sucks......
geegirl Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 (edited) I'm sorry you're going through this hurt. I wish there was way to erase the pain but unfortunately, for all of us, the only way past is to go through it. Moving back to your parents may help you better cope. Lean on them for support. Take one minute at a time. One hour. One day. I know it's going to be hard and sometimes you'll feel immense hopelessness but it won't always be this way. Be gentle with yourself. If you can't nourish yourself emotionally and mentally you have to upkeep yourself physically, force yourself to eat and drink. It's a slow process but it'll get you somewhere. You may love her with all your heart, but she's with another. You have to let go and refrain from being a substitute. Love is being with someone that chooses you and not someone that isn't so sure about you. Don't put yourself in that box, no matter how much it hurts. Hold on to your self-respect and dignity, if that's the only thing you can do. Edited October 18, 2012 by geegirl 1
stemac Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 @chrisusarmy2005 I feel for you pal, it's hard as hell when you think the world of your Ex Just like you, I love my ex with all my heart, but you have to ram yourself Through all these emotions The hurt, the sadness, the feeling of abandonment, It's been about 9-10 weeks for me, I feel little stronger but going to take Time Time is your best friend now. It will get easier in time Stay strong
Author chrisusarmy2005 Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 I know its better for me but it hurts like it shouldnt be hurting. I don't know why I just worry about her and I can't help but think about her. I do love her.
geegirl Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I know its better for me but it hurts like it shouldnt be hurting. I don't know why I just worry about her and I can't help but think about her. I do love her. It's normal to worry about her. I kept worrying about my ex even after he cheated on me. When you love someone, it's what you do. It doesn't however justify keeping yourself in a fallback position. Love is love but not at the expense of diminishing your self respect. It hurts. No lie. It hurts like hell. What's the alternative? She can't be your comfort when she's your pain. You just have to barrel through, feel the loss, feel the pain and in time you wil get to the other side.
Author chrisusarmy2005 Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 It's just really tough, we were together 4 yrs and Im moving definately, im just finding it really hard. I love her beyond belief and I definately know noone will love her as much as I do. But one person can only take so much and I hit my breaking point. It is her loss but shes still an amazing person and I honestly would do anything to get her back. Thats how much she means to me.
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