ls32ssibm Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I am a very picky dater after compromising in the past with poor results. Anyway, I've been looking over OKC the past few days within a 50 mile radius, and nada. I'm near the Albany NY area (24, M), and it's either beautiful girls who write like a fifth grader or a seemingly intelligent girl who isn't at all attractive. The ones who I am "compatible" with (90%+) are the intelligent ones that I personally don't find attractive. So, I just did some fooling around and expanded the search to 500 miles, and wow did I find some beautiful girls who seem amazing. Obviously, too far to realistically date, but shows they are out there I guess.... If you haven't tried it, give it a shot. Just greatly expand your search radius and organize with the highest match % first.
phineas Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I'm just outside Buffalo. OKcupid keeps matching me with Canadians. And the selection is WAY better. Yeah, I can spit over the niagara river but it's 30 to 40 mins to the bridge & another 30 to 40 mins to cross. Then if the border patrol is having a bad day they can turn you back for no reason whatsoever. so not worth the hassle. Also, more women in the Rochester area also. Roguhly an hr away. I'm a good 30 mins. outside buffalo so that isn't so bad but i've noticed the same thing. Could be a grass is greener thing or it could be a the search function on these sites sucks thing because twice i've had women contact me that matched my criteria but never showed up in my searches.
SmileFace Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I am not going to lie, Albany is one of worse places to find dates. Silly college town packed with people who are already settled down or trying to figure their way out. Plus with surrounding areas like Troy and Schenectady, it really isn't that great. Most of the guys are in school and work full time, while most of the girls are pregnant or mothers. Plus when you expand your search at that amount you will pick up people in NYC, which is always pretty to look at.
Author ls32ssibm Posted October 19, 2012 Author Posted October 19, 2012 Small world. Glad it's not just me.
january2011 Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 If you haven't tried it, give it a shot. Just greatly expand your search radius and organize with the highest match % first. How do you think I ended up in an LDR with someone who is not even on the same continent?
utterer of lies Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 How do you think I ended up in an LDR with someone who is not even on the same continent? That's called imaginary friends, dear. Well, at least Morte can cheer you up. 1
MrCastle Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 Having the same luck in NY. I live in Westchester just outside NYC and expand my search results to include NYC since it's a short drive and I'm there all the time. I run into 2 kinds of women. Girls who are absolutely my personality match without question, but aren't physically attractive to me; and knockouts who either don't reply back to me or their personalities differ so greatly from mine that it's not worth trying to get involved with them. Isn't that how the bulk of OLD goes though? I assume women feel the same way I do about their results.
Emilia Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 When I used it in London I got two types: the Shoreditch 'artistic' ones or geeks. Neither are particularly appealing. In larger cities it's the less sociable that end up using OLD as everyone else is just out a lot of the time. 1
phineas Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 (edited) I am not going to lie, Albany is one of worse places to find dates. Silly college town packed with people who are already settled down or trying to figure their way out. Plus with surrounding areas like Troy and Schenectady, it really isn't that great. Most of the guys are in school and work full time, while most of the girls are pregnant or mothers. Plus when you expand your search at that amount you will pick up people in NYC, which is always pretty to look at. UGH POF splashes EVERYONE in my state on my home page. 90% are women in NYC or upstate NY. HOLY HELL their all way hotter than what I see on the site around here. and yes on the mismatched personalities to body's. But I actually understand that. I'm a geek into computers, sci-fi, WOW, D&D & used to be borderline fat bastard so are most of my friends. So any woman I meet into the same things is a couch potato also. But I got in shape, learned to work on my house, do house projects ect but still retained my geek hobbies. The few women in shape I meet that are computer chicks aren't interested in me. OH well. Edited October 19, 2012 by phineas
SmileFace Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 UGH POF splashes EVERYONE in my state on my home page. 90% are women in NYC or upstate NY. HOLY HELL their all way hotter than what I see on the site around here. and yes on the mismatched personalities to body's. But I actually understand that. I'm a geek into computers, sci-fi, WOW, D&D & used to be borderline fat bastard so are most of my friends. So any woman I meet into the same things is a couch potato also. But I got in shape, learned to work on my house, do house projects ect but still retained my geek hobbies. The few women in shape I meet that are computer chicks aren't interested in me. OH well. I have a similar problem. Losing weight and kind of being lost in my new body. The guys I meet based on my interests just don't meet up with me. I am CIS major, I don't party outside of occasions, love anything active and go hard at the gym. So I get the geeky philosophical ones intellectually but life style wise it never works out. So then I go for physical attractive guys who I have less in common - thats a waste. However I know have it figured out, engineers(and my town is full of them) bring the best balance of hotness and geekiness, lol.
gaius Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 I think this girl lives somewhere in New York. Don't give up hope. http://rightwingnews.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/bronie1.jpg
ThaWholigan Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 When I used it in London I got two types: the Shoreditch 'artistic' ones or geeks. Neither are particularly appealing. In larger cities it's the less sociable that end up using OLD as everyone else is just out a lot of the time. I'm seeing quite a wide range of girls on POF these days. OKCupid is more specialist in this regard - there are a lot of poly-amorous feminists on there .
Emilia Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 I'm seeing quite a wide range of girls on POF these days. OKCupid is more specialist in this regard - there are a lot of poly-amorous feminists on there . Both sites make me a bit because the men are either on the geeky/slightly odd (okcupid) side or just seem to want to hook up and aren't particularly articulate (pof) Give okc a twirl from time to time but I don't think I'm compatible with much of the male demographic there. The troupble with POF is the 'hi how r u' quality messages, they just depress me.
ThaWholigan Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 Both sites make me a bit because the men are either on the geeky/slightly odd (okcupid) side or just seem to want to hook up and aren't particularly articulate (pof) Give okc a twirl from time to time but I don't think I'm compatible with much of the male demographic there. The troupble with POF is the 'hi how r u' quality messages, they just depress me. Yeah, I think that men complain about how hard it is for them to do OLD and how it's geared towards women, but I don't think it's any easier for women either. POF is OK, but I find I have less to go on when messaging because the women's profiles are a bit empty so trying to formulate an interesting reply is futile - I have to rely on my pics and my own profile. OKCupid is not so bad, but I am more attracted to the girls on POF, it's more accessible to girls in my demographic. Ironically, OKC is how I met my current FB.
january2011 Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 That's called imaginary friends, dear. Well, at least Morte can cheer you up. I've seen my SO three times now and he's due to visit me this winter So, playing with the search criteria worked for me. [Morte is too busy trying it on with Anya.] 1
phineas Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 The troupble with POF is the 'hi how r u' quality messages, they just depress me. Do you honestly think most women put more effort in when contacting men? I've probably had 2 messages that were that long. the rest are "hi". Let's be honest here, most people have unrealistic standards online so why waste my time crafting an e-mail to someone when "hi" works just as well since that little thumbnail of your profile pic is going to determine if they bother reading your profile anyways.
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