BlackSwanMan Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Today I saw someone who I was close to over a year ago. I haven't seen her in over a year but the moment I did my heart started pounding as it used to whenever I saw her or we caught up. Problem is she didn't acknowledge me in any way beyond a glance in my direction or two that she quickly corrected. She adjusted her body to direct it away from me so she was less likely to catch my eye. We were at a coffeeshop and she was with a female friend. I was alone. If she had any feelings of consequence or even thought of me as an acquaintance she could have smiled, nodded or even said hi at some point. I hate feeling this way - knowing that I mean so very little to her when she means so much to me. Funny just had to put it into words. Hoping it all goes away. I have so many other things to appreciate but this just cuts right through me.
River Rain Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I have so many other things to appreciate but this just cuts right through me. I know how you feel. Being slighted by someone you have feelings for is rough. I think it only goes away when you find someone else to share your heart with to be honest, at least for me.
CopingGal Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 First of all, let me comment on your name. Black swans are so incredibly beautiful...so kudos to you for such a name. I hope you chose it because of the beautiful and elegance black swans bring to the world. Second, sorry that happened to you. It sucks. You can't make people feel what they don't feel. Try to focus on the good things you have in your life. Take care of you.
Author BlackSwanMan Posted October 19, 2012 Author Posted October 19, 2012 My name ... Black Swan Man I had a few others I tried but they were taken I am currently reading The Black Swan by Nassim Taleb which is about the impact of rare unpredictable events that people find simple explanations for after the event. An very interesting but quite technical book - philosophy, stock market, mathematics and economics. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Black_Swan_(Taleb_book) I consider many events in my personal life Black Swans - finding love, losing love, etc. ie rare dramatic extreme and predictable in retrospect. I also live in the land of the real black swan (Australia).
Author BlackSwanMan Posted October 19, 2012 Author Posted October 19, 2012 I know how you feel. Being slighted by someone you have feelings for is rough. I think it only goes away when you find someone else to share your heart with to be honest, at least for me. The strange thing is I have moved on and enjoy a wonderful relationship that I am not about to jeopardise. However, I was surprised at the reaction of my heart (pounding) at the sight of her and also her apparent disdain. If ever I see her again (there are only a couple of million people in the city) then I plan to approach and ask how she is - if only to gauge her reaction. Who knows she may well be feeling I was ignoring her by not saying hi and I was the rude one.
CopingGal Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 My name ... Black Swan Man I had a few others I tried but they were taken I am currently reading The Black Swan by Nassim Taleb which is about the impact of rare unpredictable events that people find simple explanations for after the event. An very interesting but quite technical book - philosophy, stock market, mathematics and economics. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Black_Swan_(Taleb_book) I consider many events in my personal life Black Swans - finding love, losing love, etc. ie rare dramatic extreme and predictable in retrospect. I also live in the land of the real black swan (Australia). Nice to meet you. I'll check out the book.
Mcnulty Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 I felt the same way, being ignored by her after 9 months NC. she crossed the fliipin street...was upset by it. I valued her friendship as much as the relationship...cut to 3 months later, we're talking and she is in my life as a friend..I'm thankful, she brings wit and intelligence to the table. Said that she just reacted instinctively. but wanted to say hi, so don't beat yourself up over it. You never know.
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