coffeeloverx Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 So, I've been doing okay, I've been saying to myself to take it one day at a time and it'll get better eventually. I've started a new job, etc. However, I'm wondering, how does one start to meet new people? I'm a shy girl, always have been, I met my ex in a high school biology class where he was my partner in class. I'm otherwise awkward around guys, etc. I want to start meeting people, going out, having a social life, you know? I have a few close friends, but they are all away at college, one is Connecticut, we skype and talk a lot, and my other friend is about 4 or so hours away, I see her when I can. I do have coworkers and such, but hte coworkers at my one job are all 21+ and go out and drink all the time, I've gone with them, but I'm only 19, I played sober cab, at my new job my coworkers are all older than me and married and the like. So, my question is, where do I meet people? I can't do the bar scene, I'm shy, I'm awkward, what do I do?!
CopingGal Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Do things you like to do. Like books? Join a book club at the bookstore or library. Like museums? Become a member and go to events. Things like that.
shadow15 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Your not alone, I just recently became single and the break up made me lower some of my self esteem. I forgot how to play the single game and how to confront women. Hell I forgot how to make casual talk without making it feel awkward. Plus I'm in the same boat you are, all my close friends are at college 2 hours away and all i do is school and work.
ParadeRain Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Go to a Bar... approach a guy who catches your eye... "Hey.. I'm Alexa.. I'm really shy and awkward :laugh:" *laugh about it*... but really I just wanted to come over and meet you because really caught my eye from over there ... what's your name".. etc etc etc etc etc etc, etc. I'm sure you'd flatter many men if you tried... as it's always a treat for men to get hit on rather than us men having to hit on you lol
Mr Scorpio Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 So, my question is, where do I meet people? I can't do the bar scene, I'm shy, I'm awkward, what do I do?! Perhaps what you should focus on isn't meeting people, but rather becoming less shy? People come and go, but you'll always "have" yourself. You said you met your ex in a class. Are you in college? If so, there is a good opportunity. If not, you could sign up for a single class involving something you are interested in (dancing, yoga, cooking, exercise, etc). Personally, I'll suggest learning an instrument. If you want to get approached by men without having to overcome your own shyness, open mic nights are a great way to go.
River Rain Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I'm in the same boat, and I went for online dating. I joined a few dating sites three weeks ago, and I met someone that way, mind you I'm not shy...but it's a good way to be social, and interact with men in a safe way, as long as you stick to the message system most places have set up. Who knows what could happen from there right? I think that interest courses are a great way to meet people too. Someone mentioned book clubs, also meetups, hiking/biking groups, art classes, fitness classes...remember it doesn't have to be a man you'll meet, if you meet a woman, she might know someone who knows someone etc...it's just really important to try your best at being social. As for the shyness, my best advice is always take a risk, don't let fear stop you. I know it's easier said than done, but you can do it! 3
NoMoreJerks Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 So, I've been doing okay, I've been saying to myself to take it one day at a time and it'll get better eventually. I've started a new job, etc. However, I'm wondering, how does one start to meet new people? I'm a shy girl, always have been, I met my ex in a high school biology class where he was my partner in class. I'm otherwise awkward around guys, etc. I want to start meeting people, going out, having a social life, you know? I have a few close friends, but they are all away at college, one is Connecticut, we skype and talk a lot, and my other friend is about 4 or so hours away, I see her when I can. I do have coworkers and such, but hte coworkers at my one job are all 21+ and go out and drink all the time, I've gone with them, but I'm only 19, I played sober cab, at my new job my coworkers are all older than me and married and the like. So, my question is, where do I meet people? I can't do the bar scene, I'm shy, I'm awkward, what do I do?! I go to bars on my own. it's very stressful the first time, if you've never been on your own, but it gets better. also, i know a lot of peop;e will say bars are places for ONS, but that's not always true, and besides, it's your decision. you can meet a guy and just give him your #, and take it from there. you don't have to take him home / go home with him, if u don't want to. if he's interested, he will call u.
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