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Long story short. I took her out for dinner and drinks. Personally, I had a great time, date lasted 5 hours. But she did mention that she was picky and that I was her 5th match date. End of the night I walked her to her car and got a nice, long, hot kiss goodnight. This is what has transpired since...

 

Day after date (Monday)

 

10:54 her: Hey you. how was waking up this morning

11:32 me: Awful more or less. Now I'm looking at pictures of hernias in lecture. Fun day.

 

then no response from her

 

Tuesday night around 8 I decided eff, it I'm going to call her for a second date. I left a voicemail for her to call me back. She did so after her class. We talked for a little then I asked her for date 2 and she agreed. her schedule is weird so we were trying to decide between Wed. or Thurs. We picked Wed. because she is on call to possibly work Thurs. night.

 

Wednesday night

 

7:02 her: Would it be cool if we rescheduled to tom? I have so much to do at home and I'm exhausted already from work

(lie)7:45 me: Oh thank god! haha I was about to text the same thing to u about school work. Thanks for letting me take the easy way out. When do u know if u work tomorrow?

7:46 her: Awesome lol

7:47 her: I'll know by 6 tom.

8:02 me: Ok miss, let me know

8:03 her: Ok mr I will

 

so at this point she has the perfect opportunity to flake out with a built in excuse about work tomorrow. Did I play this correctly? I didn't want to sound angry.

 

I figured after a really nice first date and big kiss goodnight from her, she'd be a little more excited than "exhausted from work". What moves do I make after she flakes tomorrow?

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Long story short. I took her out for dinner and drinks. Personally, I had a great time, date lasted 5 hours. But she did mention that she was picky and that I was her 5th match date. End of the night I walked her to her car and got a nice, long, hot kiss goodnight. This is what has transpired since...

 

Day after date (Monday)

 

10:54 her: Hey you. how was waking up this morning

11:32 me: Awful more or less. Now I'm looking at pictures of hernias in lecture. Fun day.

 

then no response from her

 

Tuesday night around 8 I decided eff, it I'm going to call her for a second date. I left a voicemail for her to call me back. She did so after her class. We talked for a little then I asked her for date 2 and she agreed. her schedule is weird so we were trying to decide between Wed. or Thurs. We picked Wed. because she is on call to possibly work Thurs. night.

 

Wednesday night

 

7:02 her: Would it be cool if we rescheduled to tom? I have so much to do at home and I'm exhausted already from work

(lie)7:45 me: Oh thank god! haha I was about to text the same thing to u about school work. Thanks for letting me take the easy way out. When do u know if u work tomorrow?

7:46 her: Awesome lol

7:47 her: I'll know by 6 tom.

8:02 me: Ok miss, let me know

8:03 her: Ok mr I will

 

so at this point she has the perfect opportunity to flake out with a built in excuse about work tomorrow. Did I play this correctly? I didn't want to sound angry.

 

I figured after a really nice first date and big kiss goodnight from her, she'd be a little more excited than "exhausted from work". What moves do I make after she flakes tomorrow?

 

If she flakes tomorrow asks her if she is interested or not so that you aren't wasting your time. Show that you are a man with lots to do and no time to waste.

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yeah I like that advice the best. I don't think anything good will ever come out of sounding spiteful, and I think the best way to get even is to kill them with kindness and act like you dont' care at the same time.

 

It just sucks that I really enjoyed her company the one night. oh well....such is life.

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Wednesday night

 

7:02 her: Would it be cool if we rescheduled to tom? I have so much to do at home and I'm exhausted already from work

(lie)7:45 me: Oh thank god! haha I was about to text the same thing to u about school work. Thanks for letting me take the easy way out. When do u know if u work tomorrow?

7:46 her: Awesome lol

7:47 her: I'll know by 6 tom.

8:02 me: Ok miss, let me know

8:03 her: Ok mr I will

 

Did I play this correctly?

 

Uh. I guess. I don't understand why you lied, though.

 

 

What moves do I make after she flakes tomorrow?

 

If she flakes tomorrow, tell her, "Okay, let me know when you're free again." Then it will be left to her and you can keep contact very casual and to a minimum, and basically move on unless (until) she makes some plans to see you and follows through with them.

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