SmileFace Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I have been at a **** buddy's and not even shuffled into a back room when his ex made a surprise visit. That is beyond rude. Even if he didn't want her to see you, he should have sent her away - not you. 1
Author Ladygator Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 Well, 7pm and still nothing. I do have two expensive items at his house I'll need to get eventually. My feelings are that if he wants me, he'll say so. If he doesn't, he won't. I'll just wait a week or two for him to contact me. If he does.
2sunny Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Well, 7pm and still nothing. I do have two expensive items at his house I'll need to get eventually. My feelings are that if he wants me, he'll say so. If he doesn't, he won't. I'll just wait a week or two for him to contact me. If he does. Just send a friend over to get your things. Don't take his call if he even tries. Taking his call only makes you look desperate at this point... 1
Author Ladygator Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 Jeez. Still standing back passively and letting him call the shots. Where has that gotten you - besides USED? And the sad part is that you'll sit around praying for that phone to ring for the next 'week or two' which is now the new time limit you've bargained with yourself into accepting. And if he doesn't call within the next 2 weeks, you'll lower your expectations even more and give him another 2 or 3 or 8 weeks. Here's a question for you - when's the last time Romeo treated YOU to dinner out at a restaurant where he actually had to reach into his wallet? When's the last time he actually took the time to do something for YOU? Did you ever get flowers from him, just for all the hard work you did for him and all the groceries you bought him and all the meals you pepared and the clothes you laundered and the toilets you scrubbed for him? Yeah, I thought not. You don't even have to answer me. I already know the answer. You know darned well that you can send a friend to pick up your 'expensive' items that you left at Mr. User's house. All you need to do is send him a text and tell him your friend will be picking up your items on Weds night at 8pm (or whatever day and time you chose) and tell him to please have your things gathered together to make it easier for your friend to quickly get your stuff and leave. It's been 3 months of lapdog behavior you've displayed toward him. Time to find your SPINE and act like a young adult. Stop sitting around waiting for HIM to decide what's going to happen. I appreciate where you're coming from but he'd bought dinner two nights previously plus driven 400klm for me to night before. He hasn't been a problem for me actually *feeling* used.
2sunny Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I appreciate where you're coming from but he'd bought dinner two nights previously plus driven 400klm for me to night before. He hasn't been a problem for me actually *feeling* used. It's not a problem for YOU because you have no boundary. That's your problem ou need to work on!!! Open your eyes! He's now treated you like dirt.
Million.to.1 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 OP... I think there are a couple of really important things to consider here. How long ago did this guy and his ex break-up before you two got together? How did you "just know" you had to go into the back room? And why did you? I think you have set the tone of this relationship yourself. If he is just out of a LTR, you are just a rebound honey... and maybe in the back of your mind, you know this, and that's why you were so desperately trying to prove how "girlfriend worthy" you are by doing all his laundry/ cooking dinner etc. You were just too easy for him. He didn't have to put in a lot of effort to reap benefits from you, and that really more your issue than his. If that had happened to me, and the ex knocked on the dooor, i would of sat there, and if he had asked me to hide, I would of gone into the back room for a minute, reemerged once she was in the room, said hello to her, goodbye to him, gathered my stuff and walked out the door. i would of called my ride from outside and walked a distance from his house and waited for my ride. He would have to ring me begging and even then probably wouldn't get a second chance.
Leigh 87 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Some men can hang out with chicks they don't even like much, because they cook, clean, and make life pleasant for them. He said it himself: your sexy, do everything for me, don't argue, wow this is fkin AWESOME" Men with who have some class would refuse to continue with a girl they were not that into, and rather make them "friends only". This guy was wrong to have you around when he did not like you that much, if he had half a brain he should have known that you would get attached, and if he had much of a heart he would not have done it, had he KNOWN you were into him. Next time PLEASE do not play house with a guy you barly know!!!!!! 1
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