BigPapa Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Me and my girl have been dating for 7 months. I've known her for over 2 yrs now and we get along so well it's too bad we didn't get together sooner but instead we both had terrible relationships prior. I had recently told her that I loved her and I truely do but it was so hard. When I had told her though, she said she was wanting to tell me but decided to wait for me to say it and she said she knew 3 months after we were dating, you women.. I tell you, sometimes very hard to read. lol but I knew she had strong feelings for me, but didn't realize it that soon. It's so good to let her know everyday that I love her. Ok, you guys can put down the tissue box.. I'm done w/my story, lol
dreaming4ever Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Why was it so hard to tell her you loved her?? I just wrote an entry around the same time as you wondering why my boyfriend is not sure if he loves me...can you explain? Is it the whole guys find it hard to open up thing?
Author BigPapa Posted July 29, 2004 Author Posted July 29, 2004 Originally posted by dreaming4ever Why was it so hard to tell her you loved her?? I just wrote an entry around the same time as you wondering why my boyfriend is not sure if he loves me...can you explain? Is it the whole guys find it hard to open up thing? No, I'm very open with her.. it was mainly me knowing I have such a great thing going here and don't want to lose her but with me bringing up something like that she might think we're moving to fast or at least I am and want to maybe slow things down or something, I dunno.. it was just me thinking I could ruin something we have that's going very good by telling her how strong I felt about her. I know usually the female waits for the guy to say it but I was just still kind of nervous that also she didn't feel as strong about me yet like I did about her.
Pained Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I think each party should say it only when they're ready, and if they haven't said it yet, they aren't ready. That does NOT mean they don't love you, only that they aren't ready. I didn't feel compelled to pick up a tissue box, but it's sweet that you love each other.
dreaming4ever Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Ok Pained, that makes sense but how long do people need to fall in love?? Isn't there a chance my bf could NEVER fall in love with me?? I dunno if it's worth staying if he doesn't but I love him like crazy!
Author BigPapa Posted July 29, 2004 Author Posted July 29, 2004 Originally posted by dreaming4ever Ok Pained, that makes sense but how long do people need to fall in love?? Isn't there a chance my bf could NEVER fall in love with me?? I dunno if it's worth staying if he doesn't but I love him like crazy! Quick question, how old are both of you and do you both see eachother on a regular basis?
dreaming4ever Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 We're 24 (met in grade 9)......and we see each other almost every day.....usually cuz HE wants to see me....I hardly get any free time but I love him so much it's all good
Pained Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Sweetheart, it's possible. It's possible that he DOES love you but isn't ready to say it. Pay attention to his actions. Those are more important. Perhaps he doesn't love you in the way you want to be loved. However, I think it's very sweet that you love him, and if you two are happy together, then that should be what truly matters. I understand wanting to hear someone say they love you, but not everyone is like that. My mom RARELY says it, but shows it on a daily basis, and I don't doubt her love for me. Not ever.
dreaming4ever Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Yeah I guess that makes sense....he acts like he loves me in every possible way. He's incredibly sweet to me, he's gentle, he's always doing little things for me, bugging me if I don't eat enough (lol), planning fun things that he knows I'll like to do even if he doesn't, plus lots of hugs and kisses and um, pleasure ....I know he's been burned by a lot of gf's in the past so maybe that's why he's afraid to say it...by burned I mean he's been cheated on by every gf he's ever had besides me....still, it'd be nice to hear. And why has he SAID it before if he doesn't feel it?? pressure? I didn't say it first! Ah well....you're right, if I'm happy and he's happy I probably shouldn't sweat it....I just don't get it though...it's odd.
Author BigPapa Posted July 29, 2004 Author Posted July 29, 2004 Originally posted by dreaming4ever Yeah I guess that makes sense....he acts like he loves me in every possible way. He's incredibly sweet to me, he's gentle, he's always doing little things for me, bugging me if I don't eat enough (lol), planning fun things that he knows I'll like to do even if he doesn't, plus lots of hugs and kisses and um, pleasure ....I know he's been burned by a lot of gf's in the past so maybe that's why he's afraid to say it...by burned I mean he's been cheated on by every gf he's ever had besides me....still, it'd be nice to hear. And why has he SAID it before if he doesn't feel it?? pressure? I didn't say it first! Ah well....you're right, if I'm happy and he's happy I probably shouldn't sweat it....I just don't get it though...it's odd. By the way your telling us, he probably does but just waiting for the right time. If he's been burnt by so many gf's, it's going to take him a little while because he wants to know if it's really something thats going to last. I'd say, don't sweat it.. seems like everything is going well with you two, let it continue on.
Fayebelle Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I love my BF -He loves me- La La La La- we say it everyday and are happy as can be Super corny I know but that's how being in love makes me feel
dreaming4ever Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Thanks a LOT Fayebelle!! That really helps me!
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