ScreamingTrees Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 Also, it's been my observation that people who get a lot of "likes" and "comments" on Facebook...write statuses and post pics all the more. Why? Because they're getting social feedback, and hence have incentive to keep up their social ways. Those who don't get a lot of feedback from friends, etc., tend to shy away from posting a lot. Then they decide that Facebook is stupid and for "attention whores." Quit begrudging this girl for being successful. If I was the OP, I wouldn't begrudge her for being "successful", but there's no need in trolling for internet cat calls if she's in a relationship. Like this girl I knew in my old school, she used to wear tight spandex because she had a nice body - big bubble butt, a little waist, big boobs, yadda yadda yadda.. So I add her on facebook and she's got literally like several hundred photos - most of them pretty much the same, just a shot of her making a duck face or a shot of her ass - actually, it was mostly ass shots or other seductive poses. EVERY photo had the same 20-30 lame asses going "o dam girl u so fine let me hit it"... If I met a girl, no matter how "interested" she "seemed to be" in me, this would be a major red flag. How do I know she isn't entertaining one of these guys as an option on the side? Sounds like they're most likely incompatible with me, I look for a partner that won't give in to temptation, a partner that won't actively seek out temptation. 1
umirano Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 You should NEVER bring this up. Everyone uses social media in different ways. For her, this is how she celebrates her life. BTW, I have 1000 friends too, and I am no attention whore. I just like to post, and people think I am funny so they respond. The question you need to be asking is whether you can deal with it or not. This is who she is - obviously an extrovert, or at least an online extrovert. Is it a dealbreaker for you or not? If so, move on. If not, you need to try to get over your insecurities about it and keep getting to know her. Of course he should bring it up, if it bothers him. Always speak up in relationships. Do it clearly, be nice, be tolerant and respecting when you get an answer you don't like. But talk, by all means. And talk about what bothers you. On the specific topic: Don't expect her to change for you, after you have been dating for only a couple of weeks.
Author Easyguy14 Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 I don't think you should ever bring it up. What would the goal be? To get her to take the pictures down? I'm really, honestly trying to understand why you're agitated that she's got a few hundred photos on her Facebook page. Is it that you're bothered that she gets attention? Too many "friends"? Too many comments? What? Can you explain, OP? yea too many posts and its irritating me and to make matters worse she put more pics up today and all of them are either by herself or with a few other attention-seekers. I'm not amused one tiny bit I tell you but I'll see for how long this will keep up and how long I can deal with said nonsense.
CC12 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 yea too many posts and its irritating me and to make matters worse she put more pics up today and all of them are either by herself or with a few other attention-seekers. I'm not amused one tiny bit I tell you but I'll see for how long this will keep up and how long I can deal with said nonsense. Okay, thanks, but that wasn't really a good explanation of why you don't like it. "Too many posts" and "it's irritating me" and "I'm not amused." I understand that you don't like it, but I don't understand exactly why you don't like it. If you can explain it here, and make people see it your way, then maybe it will be easier to explain it to her.
Shaun-Dro Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Okay, thanks, but that wasn't really a good explanation of why you don't like it. "Too many posts" and "it's irritating me" and "I'm not amused." I understand that you don't like it, but I don't understand exactly why you don't like it. If you can explain it here, and make people see it your way, then maybe it will be easier to explain it to her. I'm assuming this silly dame is doing what most women on Facebook do now and that is to show off their assets, which is sickening and all it does it cause drama in relationships. And he just started dating her! Like I said in a previous post: just have fun with her and move on to the next because frankly, none of the women these days can be taken seriously.
tori0001 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 This is the problem, people take FB way too seriously. I don't get it. As I said earlier, this was her FB before you met her. If it bothers you, maybe you two are not a match.
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