Is the romance fading?

[Ajheil]

My girlfriend and I have been seriously dating for about a year and a half. Our relationship began very passionately and we couldn't keep our hands off each other. We had so much to talk about and we were always intertwined. We had sex for the first time about 6 months into the relationship and were very physically and emotionally intimate with each other from then on. We spend a lot of time together and even lived with each other over the summer. We came back to college and are now not living with each other. Since the beginning of the school year, we have not had sex and I became worried that she may not be attracted to me anymore. She says that she is still very attracted to me, but that her libido is just low or something. She is sort of unsure of what is happening. We still kiss and hold hands and I am in love with her. I am wondering if there is anything I could or shouldn't do in order to bring back the physical romance. Does anyone have any suggestions?

[Squirter69]

First of all, passionate love lasts about 6-30 months, which is love characterized by lust. After passionate love dies it can turn into companionate love which is calmer than romantic love and emphasizes intimacy with affection. If this is how you feel your relationship is, it is completely normal and there is no problem unless you miss the passion. While passionate love cannot last, this does not mean people stop having sex after 6-30 months, but the intrusive thoughts and obsessions from the dopamine, epinephrine, and other neurotransmitters has faded. You could let her know verbally you want to have more sex, but I would suggest doing things to get her in the mood. A store near you called Nu Art sells supplements which increase libido, or other toys and lubricants which enhance sexual pleasure. You could suggest using them. Also take her on a romantic date and get her excited. Go back to your place after the date tell your roommates to scram and put in a movie and make a move. BOOM BABY.