alex007 Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 (edited) So this girl i have always liked said her bf cheated on her via video chat with some girls. She said she found out 2 months before he left for a deployment. She also said she did not know where their relationship was going to go and that she is waiting for him to get back to see where things go. In this time she was seeing me and we both feel in love with each other. We would do everything together all the time almost every day. She would always call me and always be the first to ask me if I wanted to go do something. Or say things like "we should go to the movies!" "we should go to Disneyland!" . He came back for his 2 week and she was with him for 2 weeks but before this she said she would know within the first day if she wanted to be with him. She spent the nights at his house this whole time and i know they had sex she even admitted it. After he took off back to war she was calling me like crazy and she came over and I said at that point that I just wanted to be friends. She said she could never just be friends with me that she loved me. She also had a new background picture of her and him kissing on her phone and he had bought her a season pass to d-land for like 500+$. She called me her soul mate and said that she wanted to have my kids and if she could she would marry me. We did everything together... she told me she loved me constantly and we had sex all the time etc etc etc. So a lot of stuff happened within this year that he was gone. He finnally came home and she had told me many times that she did not want to spend the nights with him anymore while she figured out everything. Then the day he comes back she spent the night there and has every night for the last 2 and a half months. She told me she got kicked out of her parents house and had too.... lol she is a huge liar. I feel deeply in love with this girl. She has still been texting me almost every day telling me how much she misses me and loves me and now after 2 months went by she said she wants to see me. I know for sure she has been having sex with him and she has been doing everything that bf and gf's especially living with each other do. I think she is just saying all of this stuff to me to keep me from being so angry about what she did that i dont go over there or run into them and tell him everything. He also pays for EVERYTHING for her. I was driving to my friends house on her bf's side of time one day, my best friend lives about 30 seconds away from where the bf lives. And saw what i thought was her car drive by so I went to see where it was going and if it was her... sure enough he and she get out of the car at the movies which are about 2 min away. and she saw smiling and he was laughing, i guess they were having a good time. But then she texts me that things would have been so different if I would have answered all of her text messages over the past month (i ignored her for a month of her texts because she lied to me about a lot of things.) and she said she would have dropped everything for me. And that she is not happy with him. I said "well then why didn't you at least call me or come see me?" she said she was scared to because i was upset and she thought i would have ignored her and left her standing on my portch. I said ok so you will drop everything for me right now? and she said "yes if i felt that you would want it" "but i don't feel like you want that" "why have you been so mean to me and ignoring me?" I said because she lied to me. Then she said that is scary, and she is afraid of me.... lol. So i said "Okay i am done with all of this bs, if you really loved me and wanted me and were true with all the stuff you said to me you would have done everything and anything to keep me and get me" "so i am 100% done with all of this, you got what you wanted, have a good life" and she has been texting me the last 2 days after this sending me pix of us together saying that she cant sleep and has not been sleeping at night for the past 2 months. still saying she loves me and wants to call me but it scared. and she wants to kiss me again and hold my hand etc etc. What do you all make of this behavior? she seems crazy.... Edited October 20, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
RickFox Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Crazy to a degree, but brother man, wake up and smell the player's coffee. You got played, you filled a need for her and she's over it now, moved on, done, finished, keeping you on the line in case she needs to reel you back in so she can feel good. Move on, don't answer her, you saw everything you needed to see. What more do you want? And don't say "her" cause it ain't happening. 2
Author alex007 Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 yeah, i just don't understand why someone would want to spend 24/7 with me and act like I am the one for them and tell me I am their soul mate and that they have never been in love with someone like they have been with me... I mean after I told her to get rid of my number and forget about me and I am done and this is the last message she was getting from me and to have a nice life she would still text me almost every night and morning telling me "I have never felt love like I have with you" "I am in a very difficult situation and I don't know how to deal with it all, you will never understand this" It makes no sense for someone to tell you that you are soulmates and you are the most important thing in their life, and call and want to hang out 24/7 and then the other guy comes back and she is doing with him what she was doing with you, saying she is scared to call you but wants to come see you and would drop everything for you... but never does anything but text 2 or 3 times every other day. Mentally I don't understand how and why someone would do all of this... a year is a long time to get attached to someone. I am 100% done with her but i just don't get whats going through her head. She was very very very possessive of me and would get wayyyyyy jealous over a girl even fb'ing me... and always thought i was checking girls out and would get mad if I was watching UFC fights because she thought i was constantly checking out the card girls... just very weird stuff like that. And then thinks I should be cool with her going back to her bf knowing she is doing everything with him she once did with me. Makes no sense to me. She has to be narcissistic and have some other personality disorders.
MonsterMash Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 yeah, i just don't understand why someone would want to spend 24/7 with me and act like I am the one for them and tell me I am their soul mate and that they have never been in love with someone like they have been with me... I mean after I told her to get rid of my number and forget about me and I am done and this is the last message she was getting from me and to have a nice life she would still text me almost every night and morning telling me "I have never felt love like I have with you" "I am in a very difficult situation and I don't know how to deal with it all, you will never understand this" It makes no sense for someone to tell you that you are soulmates and you are the most important thing in their life, and call and want to hang out 24/7 and then the other guy comes back and she is doing with him what she was doing with you, saying she is scared to call you but wants to come see you and would drop everything for you... but never does anything but text 2 or 3 times every other day. Mentally I don't understand how and why someone would do all of this... a year is a long time to get attached to someone. I am 100% done with her but i just don't get whats going through her head. She was very very very possessive of me and would get wayyyyyy jealous over a girl even fb'ing me... and always thought i was checking girls out and would get mad if I was watching UFC fights because she thought i was constantly checking out the card girls... just very weird stuff like that. And then thinks I should be cool with her going back to her bf knowing she is doing everything with him she once did with me. Makes no sense to me. She has to be narcissistic and have some other personality disorders. If you think thats fun...wait till her soldier finds out and pays you a visit. 1
RickFox Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 yeah, i just don't understand why someone would want to spend 24/7 with me and act like I am the one for them and tell me I am their soul mate and that they have never been in love with someone like they have been with me... I mean after I told her to get rid of my number and forget about me and I am done and this is the last message she was getting from me and to have a nice life she would still text me almost every night and morning telling me "I have never felt love like I have with you" "I am in a very difficult situation and I don't know how to deal with it all, you will never understand this" It makes no sense for someone to tell you that you are soulmates and you are the most important thing in their life, and call and want to hang out 24/7 and then the other guy comes back and she is doing with him what she was doing with you, saying she is scared to call you but wants to come see you and would drop everything for you... but never does anything but text 2 or 3 times every other day. Mentally I don't understand how and why someone would do all of this... a year is a long time to get attached to someone. I am 100% done with her but i just don't get whats going through her head. She was very very very possessive of me and would get wayyyyyy jealous over a girl even fb'ing me... and always thought i was checking girls out and would get mad if I was watching UFC fights because she thought i was constantly checking out the card girls... just very weird stuff like that. And then thinks I should be cool with her going back to her bf knowing she is doing everything with him she once did with me. Makes no sense to me. She has to be narcissistic and have some other personality disorders. Alex, you came here for advice, and Im gonna treat you like an adult. Everything you wrote that she said to you....I've been there through it, done it heard it and been burnt to a crisp the same way you have. I'm only a year out of it, the last time we spoke was in October of last year, so I guess psychologically, it's screwing with me cause hey, here we are in October and I didn't even realize it. She said it all, only I damn near threw away my marriage for her, "soul mate" "meant to be" "never felt the love I feel for you" "I love you so much, but I still love my ____" She wanted to work out with me, bought clothes that I liked on her and then as quickly as we fell for each other, she turned her back on me after we got found out....ran home, protected her home life, and it went on from there and then told me to leave her alone and never come near her. So I respected her wishes, and you know what, she sent me two messages in April / May near the end of the school year..... you wanna talk about screwing my head up again, and Im a grown A** man.... Point is, walk away now, don't look back, don't ask any more questions that you cant get answers to, save your sanity and don't waste your youth on her anymore.
nofool4u Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 (edited) If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you. Either way, she IS a cheater. Edited October 20, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
boss100 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 This is very commo0n for the time being because girls are so much keen to money and they don not want to lead as usual life style. The main problem is that they want to take different kind of test. business process engineering I think this is the main cause of broke up or separation or something like that.
MrVegas Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Simply put, you're "That Guy", she's "That Girl" She played her hand when he first came back, by not doing anything about it, you told her it's okay to have her boyfriend and you on the side. When you had her back once he left, you became that guy. If you don't want to be that guy, then be done with it completely, leave it alone and go about your days. The response about the army guy finding out is true too, guy wont take it too kindly, especially if you are around. Plus, in the court of public opinion, many would take his side in throttling you for sleeping with his girl. Move on, letting sleeping dogs lie, and lying dogs sleep around.
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