FEWCB Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 (edited) Hi guys. I'm in the middle of a breakup of a 5 year relationship with my girl friend, we are both late 20s/early 30s. I met a wonderful girl I work with who is everything I could ever wish for, she has recently gone through an extremely hurtful breakup and we kind of confided in each other. This other girl is extremely outgoing and friendly, but we've been texting each other a lot, had literally whole days of texting each other talking about all sorts of things.I think I like her more than she likes me, but I really really do like this girl and decided the other day I was going to send her a really really sweet good night text, and the next day a text basically telling her that i think she is wonderful, beautiful and amazing. She said 'thank you for the sweet text that means so much to me'...but she kind of went a bit quiet after that, so I texted later saying I hope i didn't offend her by saying what I said. Her reply was 'dont ever apologise for saying how you feel'... So my question is, from how she reacted, how should I read her feelings? Do you think I should ask her on a date/for a drink? Please help! Edited October 17, 2012 by FEWCB
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 the middle of a breakup....ha, really? Don't you thinking you're jumping the gun a bit here? She knows your situation already, of course she's going to be apprehension or heed caution and reciprocation. But don't worry, It looks like you'll both be rebounding off each other very soon. 1
veggirl Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 that was way too much considering you guys haven't even gone on a date yet! yeah you can ask her on a date but try to relax a bit and not be so "all in" considering a) it's too soon and b) you are both fresh off relationships. also it's a bit odd that you still refer to your ex as your "girlfriend". are you guys even broken up?!
Author FEWCB Posted October 17, 2012 Author Posted October 17, 2012 (edited) Well I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship for 5 years, being shouted at, sworn at,having doors slammed at me...constant criticism and aggression from my GF and decided before I commit the rest of my life to it, to end things. The other girl was going out with a guy who after 3 years broke up with her, and moved to Hong Kong with her friend... So I dont see why looking for some happiness is wrong? I'm trying mainly to ask for advice about how to read her reaction? Edited October 17, 2012 by FEWCB
InJest Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Stop looking at this girl as the perfect girl, and just try to have fun with her. You don't stand a chance, but this is what needs to happen.
veggirl Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Looking for happiness isn't wrong, no one said that. But really after a 5 yr R you are allready ready to date? You don't think you are just rebounding? Anyway, what I think she meant by her reaction was that what you said was TOO MUCH. Is SHE ready to date? My ex and I recently broke up.... I am not interested in a guy texting me to tell me I am beautiful and wonderful.... there is generally a period of alone time after the end of a serious relationship, you apparently don't need that, but she may. She is likely just not ready to jump into something else.
sweetkiwi Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 she likes your attention. You like her attention. But trust me the grass is not always greener. You barely know this other girl. And you especially dont know her in a romantic relationship. Her reaction wasn't good. If i was into a guy i would compliment him right back. You're the guy who is helping to rebuild her selfesteem.
InJest Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 She would probably be down to **** you, but without all the mushy stuff. You probably blew it.
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