WildWildWest Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 You have the person you have been seeing for a while over your house like you normally do. your just laying in the bed talking (post sex), everything is good, at least you think.. The person gets up to go to the bathroom and comes back in the bedroom to look for their clothes, goes out into the living room, gets their stuff and rolls out.. doesnt tell you their leaving and dont even say goodbye.. How would that make you feel?
Janesays Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Like I should look for some money on my nightstand. 8
ThaWholigan Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 You have the person you have been seeing for a while over your house like you normally do. your just laying in the bed talking (post sex), everything is good, at least you think.. The person gets up to go to the bathroom and comes back in the bedroom to look for their clothes, goes out into the living room, gets their stuff and rolls out.. doesnt tell you their leaving and dont even say goodbye.. How would that make you feel? Used?
liquid_amber Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 You have the person you have been seeing for a while over your house like you normally do. your just laying in the bed talking (post sex), everything is good, at least you think.. The person gets up to go to the bathroom and comes back in the bedroom to look for their clothes, goes out into the living room, gets their stuff and rolls out.. doesnt tell you their leaving and dont even say goodbye.. How would that make you feel? i would wonder what was in the bathroom that freaked them out. 1
AsItIs Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I would tend to think she saw something that ticked her off.Maybe she looked at your phone & saw something?Or maybe you said something offensive & didn't even realize it.Whatever the case may be...if she couldn't even atleast try to communicate,I'd say that speaks alot for the situation.Hopefully she'll call you,if or when she's ready to talk about it.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I hear this is how women act immediately after becoming pregnant... 1
utterer of lies Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 You have the person you have been seeing for a while over your house like you normally do. your just laying in the bed talking (post sex), everything is good, at least you think.. The person gets up to go to the bathroom and comes back in the bedroom to look for their clothes, goes out into the living room, gets their stuff and rolls out.. doesnt tell you their leaving and dont even say goodbye.. How would that make you feel? Satisfied, because it's post sex. Don't worry about her, if there's something up she'll tell you. And if not, who cares.
Author WildWildWest Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 Actually I am the female and I'm the one who left his house without saying goodbye.. He had no clue I was leaving and he had no clue I was even upset... The reason I got mad was REALLY dumb and I feel really bad about how I just left like that.. I didnt leave right after sex.. I had been there a few hours but it still wasnt right regardless.. I have txtd to apologize and he isnt speaking to me now... This isnt a new relationship, we have been seeing each off and on for 3 years.. I'm worried that he may never speak to me again
oaks Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 So it's just another chapter in an ongoing drama? Maybe he's used to it by now. 2
sweetkiwi Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 yeah, stupid move. You hurt his ego and made him distrust you. On and off for three years? How does that happen other than a bad pairing?
Author WildWildWest Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 No, its nothing like that.. This is not something I have done before.. and if he was used to it then he would be returning my txts and speaking to me when we see each other... I can understand why he is mad, I would be furious if anybody did that to me.
TigerCub Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I'm really curious to know what it was the pissed you off so much that you did what you did.
Author WildWildWest Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 Ok.. I'll tell u why I got mad.. bear with me now.. its a pretty stupid reason.. I was mad because when I was over his house the time before things were soooo wonderful... it wasnt just sex, it was lovemaking.. he put so much feeling and so much into it and it was the best feeling in the world.. I had never felt that way with anybody before... We even discussed how great it was and the things that took place and he knew how much I enjoyed it.. So when I was with him this week I had assumed things would be the same as last time and they werent.. I mean it wasnt horrible and he always puts feeling into it, matter or fact its always love making and not just sex but it just wasnt like the time before.. I guess it made me feel like he wasnt as into it or maybe the week before was just an act.. I couldnt understand why the week before was so wonderful and we both enjoyed it so much that it didnt happen like that again. But then I realized its not always gonna be the same everytime we are together, but I realized it to late.. I had already got my little attitude and made my exit the way I did.. It was wrong and I kno it was.. Very immature on my part.. Now I dont kno what to do to fix it
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Ok.. I'll tell u why I got mad.. bear with me now.. its a pretty stupid reason.. I was mad because when I was over his house the time before things were soooo wonderful... it wasnt just sex, it was lovemaking.. he put so much feeling and so much into it and it was the best feeling in the world.. I had never felt that way with anybody before... We even discussed how great it was and the things that took place and he knew how much I enjoyed it.. So when I was with him this week I had assumed things would be the same as last time and they werent.. I mean it wasnt horrible and he always puts feeling into it, matter or fact its always love making and not just sex but it just wasnt like the time before.. I guess it made me feel like he wasnt as into it or maybe the week before was just an act.. I couldnt understand why the week before was so wonderful and we both enjoyed it so much that it didnt happen like that again. But then I realized its not always gonna be the same everytime we are together, but I realized it to late.. I had already got my little attitude and made my exit the way I did.. It was wrong and I kno it was.. Very immature on my part.. Now I dont kno what to do to fix it Uhhh...wow. How old are you? Can you please shed some light on how this whole business has been "on and off" for three years??? I'm genuinely curious. I'm getting a picture of a very emotionally unstable person. Have you found yourself to be this way?
Author WildWildWest Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 I'm 30 years old... its been on and off for 3 years because in the begining it wasnt supposed to be anything serious.. I had gotten out of a horrible marriage and he had been burned in the past so we werent looking for anything serious.. well u kno what happens with a situation like that.. the longer you deal with the person the more feelings get involved.. We both have trust issues so its really hard to deal with.. I told him about a year or so ago that I have developed some real feelings for him and I wanted more and I gave him the option to end it all or try for something real so we have been working on that.. it has been a very slow process and I am ok with that because I really like him and want to be with him so I'm not really sure why I did what I did.. Could be because I have been spoiled in my past relationships.. either way I kno I was wrong and I want to make it better, just not sure how to go about it.
sweetkiwi Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 just tell him you're so sorry for being like that. Give him quiet time to forgive you. Get out of his asscrack. And if or when he takes you back, start focusing on the positive not the negative. And don't freak out for little things unless you're okay with being the weirdo and not being able to communicate.
veggirl Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 So it's just another chapter in an ongoing drama? Maybe he's used to it by now. Seriously. OP if I was the person left laying in the bed I would have said "hey, wait, where are you going?" and gotten up to see WTF is going on. If someone just randomly got up and walked out like you did, without explanation, I would be pissed off and I would think that person is an immature drama queen. Your boyfriend is probably used to your dramatics, like Oaks said, which is why he didn't say anything. 3 years of this off and on, doubt it's TRULY salvagable...because the dynamic of your R is already SET and not changing, so this may just be another bump in the rocky road, but eventually one of you will tire of this type of s.hit and one of these instances will be the end of your R.
TigerCub Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Thanks for answering WWW. Well, you admitted repeatedly that what you did was irrational. And you now realize that sex varies and moods vary and all that. You did apologize to him but he's ignoring you now. You've been "together" for 3 years. I doubt that he will completely cut you off over this (especially since you did say that you've never done this to him before) So...leave him alone for now, and give him some space. You can try to talk to him again in a few days, and when you do, call him, don't text. He needs something a little more personal than a message saying 'I'm sorry'. If it were me, I'd certainly NOT say that it was the quality of the sex that pissed me off - you were being moody (that's the truth), so maybe just apologize for being moody and assure him that you truly are sorry and will do your best to handle those types of situations differently from now on. I think that's all you can do. He certainly has a right to be hurt, confused or annoyed or pissed - and you'll just have to see how he reacts to all this.
Author WildWildWest Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 I do kno our main problem is lack of communication.. that is something we def need to work on.. I havent been bothering him since it happened.. when he txtd me after I left to tell me it was F***** up how I just left I apologized then and I apologized the next day and I got no response.. I see him everyday for 10-15 mins cuz we work together and he wont speak or even look at me.. Im giving him space and time to think things over before I attempt anything else. I was thinking a I'm sorry card and an offer to come over and cook him dinner and give him back rubs, since he enjoys it so much.. Or perhaps I should just leave it alone and see if he comes around on his own :/
Author WildWildWest Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 Thank you for your advice TigerCub.. I think you are right.. I shouldnt mention the reason I was mad because of the quality of the sex, that would just make things worse.. and like I said, its not like it wasnt enjoyable.. I always enjoy being with him.. I was just disappointed that he didnt put as much into it as he did before.. and yes I was being moody and I do need to learn how to handle it differently.. I have given him space for the past couple days.. I havent attempted anything since the apology txt tuesday morning after it happened monday night.. I kno he is probably hurt and pissed at the same time.. and it didnt help that he had already had a bad morning at work before I pulled my little stunt I can be a spoiled brat sometimes and I need to work on myself!
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