Solcita2 Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Hi. I used to be just Solcita a few years ago, I'll try to link my old profile on my signature. Anyway, I've been in a relationship for over 4 years. We've been living together for the last 2. We have two cats together. Thing is, next year I'm moving across the world for an investigation project I have. It's a HUUUUUUUUUGE step career wise but it obviously mean living half world apart. Even when he doesn't have a steady job (he's a freelancer) and he could work from wherever with an Internet conexion, we won't be able to do so because of the situation with my MIL. She's currently living in a retirement home, with Alzheimer and Parkinson. He's the only family she has left, so moving across the world is not option for him. Althought the relationship with his mother was always bad and distant, he just can't go away for legal reasons. My previous relationship was a LDR and it wasn't easy... OK, he was an a***ole... but that aside, it's not easy. In this case it will be different and harder I think, because we'll go from sleeping in the same bed every night to not seeing each other in person for 2 freaking years. I'm already trying to come up with a big plan of him moving with me in the second year, at least for a period of 6 months or so... but that still means we'd be apart for a year or so. If your LDR started as a regular R, how did you get ready for the departure? Thanx in advance!
Lady Chrissy Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 Hello, I'm going to try and help you ^-^ For me, I have been in several LDRs and I am currently in one for 1.5 years. 1. Communitcation is Key! Talking to each other everyday (even if its only for like 10 mins) lets each other know that thier SO is alive lol and lets the feel unforgotten. 2. Trust is a must There will be times when things seems really bad but you just have to trust that your SO. A missed phone call or un reply text doesn't mean cheating! it just means that the person is really busy, phone died, or simply wasn't paying attention. 3. Find ways to plan a date night =) Once a week or twich a month (Or more) plan a day or night where you two will Video chat and either talk, eat dinner together or just relax 4. Write letters writing a letter can be much more romantic and setimental then an email or text. Makes them feel specail. 5. Watch a movie! Websites like Netflix and Hulu lets you watch videos online. Talk on the phone (Unlimited anywhere callings is helpful) and watch the movie together, it's more fun then you think =) 6. Try to plan several trups where either you can visit him for a week or him to you and look forward to that. Thats all the tips I could think of at the moment but I hope this answers your questions. Good luck
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