Is it usually ok to text the occasional "sweet" message to a girl on the fence?

[Emissary]

There's this girl I've been trying to woo for a while now, though it's only the past week that I've been taking it more seriously. It's already out in the open between us in how I really feel for her, she's cool with it and has even started text convos without me having to initiate.

 

It's the general consensus with everybody who has been observing this first-hand that while she's been kind of skating around the possibility of a date, she hasn't rejected me and is simply surfing the fence.

 

I was thinking of just saying something like "thinking of you". I don't know, something to help teeter her over the edge in my favour, but not so heavy that it pushes her away.

[yongyong]

Absolutely NO

[InJest]

Stop talking to her altogether. She knows how you feel, now give her time with no contact to see if she really wants to be with you, on her own. If she contacts you, just tell her that you're interested in dating her only, and if she doesn't want that, she should stop contacting you.

[FEWCB]

I say go for it. If she doesnt fancy you, she'll just shrug it off, but if she does it'll show her youre sweet and sensitive and caring. I'd do it!

[curlygirl40]

In my opinion, if she is truly ON the fence, and she knows how you feel, then sending something like that could push her off the fence, and not in your favor.

 

Give her some time and space. People like to make their own decisions. What is the saying? They want to buy, they don't want to be sold.

 

Oftentimes when you give someone some space and create a gap, the other person will fill that gap. If you're the one always filling the gap, then they don't have the time to decide what they want.

 

Give it time.

[Emissary]

Does it make a difference that we've known each other for a good bit now, like 6 months and were friendly before I took interest in her? I'm not this random guy she just met, we do know each other already.

[liquid_amber]

i agree with the others. don't do it.

[sillychick]

Does it make a difference that we've known each other for a good bit now, like 6 months and were friendly before I took interest in her? I'm not this random guy she just met, we do know each other already.

 

Ya but, you're not dating. So I don't think it matters that you've known each other a while. I think it's too much, too soon.

[veggirl]

NNNNNOOOO.

 

If she is "on the fence" that is NOT going to win her over, it will just show her that she has you wrapped around her finger. Don't do it. If she is on the fence, you should be sitting back, dating around, and letting her come to you.

[yongyong]

You do such kind of things after Banging her. She is not sure if you are still into her after giving it to you, that's when you send such things.

 

you don't send that to get into her pants or win her heart.

[Mrlonelyone]

Don't text her something like that, ever really. Even if you are in a committed Rlship. You want to show a woman your thinking of her, have a conversation with her about something she's interested in.

[pteromom]

You want to show a woman your thinking of her, have a conversation with her about something she's interested in.

 

Right!

 

Instead of "thinking of you", which sounds sappy and could be off-putting if she isn't interested or doesn't know yet, text her something funny or ask her what she's doing. Keep it light and easy. If she's interested, she'll keep the conversation going.

[Easyguy14]

There's this girl I've been trying to woo for a while now, though it's only the past week that I've been taking it more seriously. It's already out in the open between us in how I really feel for her, she's cool with it and has even started text convos without me having to initiate.

 

It's the general consensus with everybody who has been observing this first-hand that while she's been kind of skating around the possibility of a date, she hasn't rejected me and is simply surfing the fence.

 

I was thinking of just saying something like "thinking of you". I don't know, something to help teeter her over the edge in my favour, but not so heavy that it pushes her away.

 

Not a good idea buddy. Most women wont respond well to that unless your in a relationship with them and already sleeping with them also. True advice so still keep it casual and make moves on her when you meet up.

[sweetkiwi]

not even had a first date? Don't do it. Its nice you're sweet. And if a girl is into you she'll like that too. But if she's not into you... Which she's not...its going to push her away.

[utterer of lies]

On the fence?

 

No.

 

That does not exist. Why would you even consider dating someone who doesn't want to date you back. Have you no self-respect?

[Kittkat]

I'd say avoid the "thinking of you" text, that might be a little much at this point. But don't give up! My boyfriend and I met in a class, and we texted for almost a year. I know that for the last 3-4 months or so he was seriously falling for me, but I, like the girl you like, was "on the fence". But he persisted very slowly and patiently, and let me tell you, I'm so glad he did! Don't worry, if it's meant to be, it will happen Sometimes girls just need to take their time.