Author Sun Devil Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 Shaun dro, I have not been able to get any girl regardless on how she looks. If I ignore women, nothing happens. Carenth is wrong. Having a relationship is something nearly all humans need and is one of my greatest desires. Being single is unbearable and unless I get a girl, nothing will cure it. The reality is that being single is terrible
Shaun-Dro Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Shaun dro, I have not been able to get any girl regardless on how she looks. If I ignore women, nothing happens. Carenth is wrong. Having a relationship is something nearly all humans need and is one of my greatest desires. Being single is unbearable and unless I get a girl, nothing will cure it. The reality is that being single is terrible If you want to end the misery that bad, there's a way. You won't get dating or a relationship, but you will get sex. And the answer is escort service. You can check backpage for discounted prices. Having a woman's body, which all heterosexual men every now and again need, will relieve all of that pented up frustration, so please look into it. If you shoot this suggestion down, then you don't really want to be helped and rather wallow in self-pity, which I wont indulge.
Author Sun Devil Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 I already plan on seeing an escort this winter. However I want to build a long term relationship. If I am unable to get a girlfriend by the time my parents die off from old age, I will just end my life.
Carenth Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 (edited) I was an extremely unhappy individual in my late teens, early twenties. Whilst I didn't have the same issues as Sun Devil, I had my own problems which I perceived as insurmountable and that I would lead a miserable, lonely and pointless life. I blamed everyone and everything for my misfortune for a long time. Until I decided that no one was going to solve these problems for me and I would have to do it myself. Which meant looking deep and accepting some hard truths. First my outlook on life which was extremely negative was one of the main reasons people shied away and rejected me; no one wants to be with someone full of bile and self-hatred. So I went and got professional help from doctors who helped me steer me on the right path. After I started feeling a bit better about myself, I went on a course of self-improvement for myself. Not for anyone else, not to pick up chicks or to impress other people. I got myself an education and focused on living a healthier lifestyle got myself into shape both mentally and physically. I got myself a job while studying in an area that usually would make me very uncomfortable because it forced me to interact with people, strangers lots of them. That helped me come out of my shell and learn how to interact with people. My friends and family I can never thank them enough for how much they helped me through this period. It was then I started been approached by girls for the first time in my life, because they found me to be a kind and interesting person who was genuine not putting up some bull**** front I learnt from a desperado PUA book (btw if you are looking for a meaningful relationship avoid PUA crap at all costs imo it is snake oil). I've had a couple of relationships now and dated quite a bit. I'm in a long distance relationship atm (which I never thought would be something I would consider) and am quite content. I now have a job I enjoy in the industry I want to be. I'm going to meet my girlfriend for the first time in a few weeks when I fly half way around the world to spend 2 weeks with her. Overall I'm pretty happy and have been for the last couple of years. None of this came easily and it was not something that came overnight. It meant facing and owning my inner demons and fears accepting who I am, a flawed individual like everyone else. Learning to accept and love myself for who I am. My life is not perfect (no ones life is) but I am happy. Edited October 24, 2012 by Carenth 3
Author Sun Devil Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 I a am getting fed up with this. I constantly get rejected and I am not seeing any hope in the future. People say that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, but I see it as a permanent solution to a permanent problem. I believe that one of two things will happen. If there is a god, then I will get to live in the afterlife. If there is no god, then I will no longer exist, but at least I wont suffer either way
CheckIt Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Gotta have confidence man. Don't be desperate for girls. Find the one you like and work hard for it.
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Those who have had to survive the least seem to be those who complain the most. The OP is taking his problem way out of proportion.
JamesM Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I believe that one of two things will happen. If there is a god, then I will get to live in the afterlife. If there is no god, then I will no longer exist, but at least I wont suffer either way You are making a huge assumption that if there is a God, then you will be in Heaven. The big possibility is that if there is a God (using your words since you do not believe in God), then you may be spending eternity in Hell. And that will make your current position seem like Paradise. You can deal with this.
Author Sun Devil Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 You guys do not know what it is like to have a trait that virtually no woman likes. A few short guys get lucky and find a girl who does not mind, but there are many who will never find love. I refuse to accept being single anymore. I try to work and improve myself, but all I get is more rejection. It is even worse for me when I see all of my friends get girls with little effort. I cannot accept being single anymore.
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 (edited) You guys do not know what it is like to have a trait that virtually no woman likes. A few short guys get lucky and find a girl who does not mind, but there are many who will never find love. I refuse to accept being single anymore. I try to work and improve myself, but all I get is more rejection. It is even worse for me when I see all of my friends get girls with little effort. I cannot accept being single anymore. So don't accept being single anymore and do everything you can to find a partner. If your choice is between death or doing everything you can to put the odds in your favour and persisting, the obvious choice should be the second alternative. When you actually do find love, it will have been worth all of this. If you can't live as a single person anymore, live for the prospect of being in love. Edited October 24, 2012 by xdahliax
Carenth Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 (edited) You guys do not know what it is like to have a trait that virtually no woman likes. A few short guys get lucky and find a girl who does not mind, but there are many who will never find love. I refuse to accept being single anymore. I try to work and improve myself, but all I get is more rejection. It is even worse for me when I see all of my friends get girls with little effort. I cannot accept being single anymore. Ya I do actually, seriously though your problem is your attitude and you are using your shortness as a crutch and blaming everyone else for been horrible people for not wanting to be with someone who said they will kill themselves because it's all too hard and unfair, filled with general negativity and bitterness. Would you find that to be an attractive quality in a girl? I very much doubt it. I hope you decide to improve yourself for yourself rather than the pursuit of others. You will never be happy unless you are content with yourself, having another person there will not complete you. Don't get me wrong having someone else can improve your life but it will not fix your problems. I'm done trying to convince you otherwise though, good luck. Edited October 24, 2012 by Carenth
Author Sun Devil Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Have any of you seen a guy who is around 5 feet tall be successful with women, especially during college. I heard that women become less shallow in their 40's and up, but I dont plan on waiting that long.
Author Sun Devil Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 So far, no one can show me a very short guy who is successful with women. Some people say that being single is great, but they came from bad relationships or have friends with benefits. It will only get worse for me when my family does off. I cannot think of a good reason to continue life
ThaWholigan Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So far, no one can show me a very short guy who is successful with women. Some people say that being single is great, but they came from bad relationships or have friends with benefits. It will only get worse for me when my family does off. I cannot think of a good reason to continue life Sean Stephenson. Style is 5 foot 6. Josh Pellicer is 5 foot 5 There are others.
Author Sun Devil Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Those guys are still taller than the average girl. I am talking about guys who are less than 5 feet 4 inches. I do not hear many success stories with them. When I read stories about short men dating, I keep hearing from short men in their 50 s and older who were never able to get girls. I will not be one of them. If there is a chance to improve myself, then I will do it, but if my height cannot be compensated, then my hope will run out
IndianBabu Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 There are quite a few countries like Indonesia, Bolivia etc that reportedly have an average male height of around 5'3" or so. I'm guessing quite a few men will be around the 5 feet mark. If you are desperate enough that you consider ending your life, why not move to one of these countries and give it a shot?
ThaWholigan Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Those guys are still taller than the average girl. I am talking about guys who are less than 5 feet 4 inches. I do not hear many success stories with them. When I read stories about short men dating, I keep hearing from short men in their 50 s and older who were never able to get girls. I will not be one of them. If there is a chance to improve myself, then I will do it, but if my height cannot be compensated, then my hope will run out Either way, you have to stop being a little bitch and learn how to compensate. 2
hinatticus Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 All my ex's were gorgeous and taller than me. I'm only 5'4" plus I'm Asian. I only date white girls. So being a short guy and limiting my dating pool by only dating white chicks who don't mind Asians, really limits my chances for success. Yet I succeed anyway. Difference between me and you, I don't give a sh*t about my height.
Author Sun Devil Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 The constant rejections has caused me to become depressed. I went to a counselor to get help. I keep hearig about how short guys are not able to get girls and it makes it worse. So far this semester, I got rejected by 20 girls. I continue to approach girls I dont know since my social circle consosts of guys. I will continue to improve myself and also expand my social circle where there would be more girls. If all of this fails by winter, then I will by a hooker. I do not want to be the guy with no relationship by 30. There must be a way to prevent that from happening to me.
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