lovecash Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I realized I was being kinda needy at the end of our relationship. I didnt actually NEED her, but looking back I sent her some pretty needy texts-- I just thought she wanted her to know I loved her and missed her. I am a very independent person- have my own friends and own hobbies. She was actually socially dependent on me and my group. Any way to repair the damage? We dated 4.5 years and had a great connection. Been 1 month of NC. I'm thinking I let it cool off for a few more months then open up a line of contact.
LostOne1 Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I realized I was being kinda needy at the end of our relationship. I didnt actually NEED her, but looking back I sent her some pretty needy texts-- I just thought she wanted her to know I loved her and missed her. I am a very independent person- have my own friends and own hobbies. She was actually socially dependent on me and my group. Any way to repair the damage? We dated 4.5 years and had a great connection. Been 1 month of NC. I'm thinking I let it cool off for a few more months then open up a line of contact. tough to say.. my experience after a month and half my ex was still quite angry. SO it depends on how it ended and her personality type. I guess for time.. I don't know. I always believed waiting to long is bad.. but people also say it can be good. So I don't know what to say about the time. There is lots of random advice like NC and some I've seen says you shouldn't lose more than 1-2 weeks of contact... so I don't know. People here will say go for NC, but other sites I've been to say there should always be some form of communication still to keep the lines open
Author lovecash Posted October 17, 2012 Author Posted October 17, 2012 I read the X-squared guide to getting back an ex-- it was actually a great read. Not only for getting someone back but just for being a better man in general. It says the peak of missing an ex/loniless comes at 4 weeks. And depending on the breakup/neediness before it ended, you need to open up a line of conversation. Our breakup ended OK actually-- we ended up having sex, then having a slice of pizza together after. When i got drunk later that night I sent her a text saying something like "you made a huge mistake"-- her response was that she needs to think about what we talked about earlier, she needs to explore her feelings, and that we both need to stay strong. All in all I dont think the breakup was that bad.
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