imthatguy Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 (edited) Basically I'm in college and my girlfriend is in high school. We've talked for about 7 months, we only made our relationship official after I left for college. She is the prettiest girl I have seen in real life, and has guys all over, it's funny how many enemies I have made since talking to her. I have been good and understand that many guys are going to talk to her and haven't gotten too jealous. She made me fall in love with her. Fast forward to recent times. I recently went back home, and things were all good, until she tried to hide her texts. Long story short she deleted her texts, yet got mad at texts I had on my phone. I know she isn't cheating on me, it takes a long time for her to hookup with someone, unless she wants to piss you off, she admitted to flirting with someone in the texts though... I ended up breaking up with her, but she got really upset and said she was done texting other guys, and I told her I would stay with her if she changed. She agreed and said she would change. The next day I left to go back to college. After the long drive back to UMass I moved all of my luggage in and parked my car. When I got out of the car I had a text that said, "How do you expect me to not text other guys if you don't text me?" This got me extremely angry because I had been driving and had no chance to text her. Long story short I broke up with her before she could apologize and explain her feelings. This absolutely killed her, she was crying for a long time, and she blew up her twitter talking about how upset she was. I had broken up with her two days in a row, and she was pissed. I told her I wouldn't break up with her again if it wasn't for real. Fast forward a week and she became acting weird, I could tell something was wrong, I should have just ignored her and she would have missed me and everything would have been fine. Instead I called her and she said she needed time to think, she said she still liked me, just some people had been saying "Why are you with him? He's at UMass partying and you're home having to deal with it." (I only want her, yes I'm in college I'm going to party, but I would never cheat on her.) So basically I got angry and said "If you need time to think maybe we should just break up" She was quick to tell me how she was never gonna break up with me and only needed to feel that she missed me. And now she was pissed, I had lied because I told her I was never going to break up with her again, I went back on my word... She was very upset and needed time to think. We've talked a little, and she has told me she loves me. I called her last night and told her I'm not going to talk to her til she has had enough time to think. Today I got a text that said this "So I thought about it and I need a break like I'm confused. I still wanna talk to you all the time though. Its just idk." then I said "You should have called me when you got out of school." She said "Do u not wanna do that? Like.. Do u not wanna take a break do u wanna just like break up?" "Like I need to know" Then she called me. I have ignored these last few attempts at contacting me... How do I get her back? I know it's not too late. She always ends up missing me... But I'm not going through a break... She has also been saying that she thinks I have wanted to break up for a while. And let me repeat she is literally the hottest girl I have ever seen, I'm worried Edited October 17, 2012 by imthatguy Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 Then she called me. I have ignored these last few attempts at contacting me... How do I get her back? Ignoring her won't get her back, that will push her away. It'll confirm her thoughts that you aren't really serious about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author imthatguy Posted October 17, 2012 Author Share Posted October 17, 2012 Ignoring her won't get her back, that will push her away. It'll confirm her thoughts that you aren't really serious about her. Do you believe it's too late? I never thought this would end... We've been in plenty of fights, but it always works out. Usually ignoring her makes her come back to me.. I'm not sure about this situation. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 (edited) Do you believe it's too late? I never thought this would end... We've been in plenty of fights, but it always works out. Usually ignoring her makes her come back to me.. I'm not sure about this situation. I'm just going to say it straight, and I hope I don't offend you. Game playing is for children. If you really like her, you can't ignore her because basically what you're doing is tricking her emotions into wanting you again. I had low self-esteem with my ex and he pulled this crap on me, and I went back 3 times before I grew a set and realized that he is a manipulative game player. I actually want nothing more to do with him and there is no chance ever of reconciliation. The hot/cold game may work for a while, but this never works out in the end because people just plain get tired of it, then end up with lots of anger and resentment. Plus when a person, man or woman, ignores the person they are supposed to love/like, it hurts. Why would you want to hurt her if you want her back? I don't understand the behaviour to be honest, it's kind of controlling in my opinion. I think you need a conversation with her. If she calls, answer the phone and tell her how you feel. Be honest and direct. Talk about your relationship and what you want out of it. If she doesn't feel the same way, you have to let her go and move on. And stop that game playing with the next one, you don't want a relationship based on this do you? Edited October 17, 2012 by River Rain Link to post Share on other sites
Author imthatguy Posted October 17, 2012 Author Share Posted October 17, 2012 A girl like this get's what she wants. If I give her what she wants she will get disinterested, it's my only way of keeping her around. Probably not worth it... Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 be a man. Tell her you don't want a break. If you two are going to have a real relationship you have to be able to work things out. Stop breaking up with her if you want to be with her. That stupid and is just making her even more insecure. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 Basically I'm in college and my girlfriend is in high school. We've talked for about 7 months, we only made our relationship official after I left for college. She is the prettiest girl I have seen in real life, and has guys all over, it's funny how many enemies I have made since talking to her. I have been good and understand that many guys are going to talk to her and haven't gotten too jealous. She made me fall in love with her. Fast forward to recent times. I recently went back home, and things were all good, until she tried to hide her texts. Long story short she deleted her texts, yet got mad at texts I had on my phone. I know she isn't cheating on me, it takes a long time for her to hookup with someone, unless she wants to piss you off, she admitted to flirting with someone in the texts though... I ended up breaking up with her, but she got really upset and said she was done texting other guys, and I told her I would stay with her if she changed. She agreed and said she would change. The next day I left to go back to college. After the long drive back to UMass I moved all of my luggage in and parked my car. When I got out of the car I had a text that said, "How do you expect me to not text other guys if you don't text me?" This got me extremely angry because I had been driving and had no chance to text her. Long story short I broke up with her before she could apologize and explain her feelings. This absolutely killed her, she was crying for a long time, and she blew up her twitter talking about how upset she was. I had broken up with her two days in a row, and she was pissed. I told her I wouldn't break up with her again if it wasn't for real. Fast forward a week and she became acting weird, I could tell something was wrong, I should have just ignored her and she would have missed me and everything would have been fine. Instead I called her and she said she needed time to think, she said she still liked me, just some people had been saying "Why are you with him? He's at UMass partying and you're home having to deal with it." (I only want her, yes I'm in college I'm going to party, but I would never cheat on her.) So basically I got angry and said "If you need time to think maybe we should just break up" She was quick to tell me how she was never gonna break up with me and only needed to feel that she missed me. And now she was pissed, I had lied because I told her I was never going to break up with her again, I went back on my word... She was very upset and needed time to think. We've talked a little, and she has told me she loves me. I called her last night and told her I'm not going to talk to her til she has had enough time to think. Today I got a text that said this "So I thought about it and I need a break like I'm confused. I still wanna talk to you all the time though. Its just idk." then I said "You should have called me when you got out of school." She said "Do u not wanna do that? Like.. Do u not wanna take a break do u wanna just like break up?" "Like I need to know" Then she called me. I have ignored these last few attempts at contacting me... How do I get her back? I know it's not too late. She always ends up missing me... But I'm not going through a break... She has also been saying that she thinks I have wanted to break up for a while. And let me repeat she is literally the hottest girl I have ever seen, I'm worried Hottest girl or not, she's always going to be vying for attention and a lot of validation from other men when you're not around. Clearly, this dame isn't relationship material and being that she's still in HS, I'd forget her. I've messed with girls in their late teens, but they were out of high school, so it was different, not to mention, I never take them seriously, as well as you shouldn't. Go for one of the college dames with better maturity and let this one slide off the radar, because eventually she'll do it herself anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 A girl like this get's what she wants. If I give her what she wants she will get disinterested, it's my only way of keeping her around. Probably not worth it... If that's the only reason she sticks around, then she'll be gone soon enough. A real woman, when you give her what she wants, will stick around and love you because she will feel cared for and she'll give you back what you want as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author imthatguy Posted October 17, 2012 Author Share Posted October 17, 2012 I told her we're better off breaking up, kinda got a little mean. She said she feels like the worst girlfriend ever... And that I'm an amazing guy. Not trying to sound like a douche. This definitely kills me, but it probably would never work out. Link to post Share on other sites
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