hearttopieces Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 As a form of break up? Let's say you had problems with your SO, and then you just stopped talking to that person, changed your number and disappeared, without any kind of explanation or saying goodbye. If yes, what was your motivation? Do you think a person who does this is strong, or weak?
JustALittleBit Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I have sort of done it. I was involved with a guy that was emotionally manipulative/abusive. We started fighting and when we would talk he would say a thousand things without saying anything. We took a break, I found out he was involved with another girl the entire time, when he contacted me again (thinking I hadn't found out but I had had extensive discussions with the girl since neither of us knew about the other), I told him that if he contacted me again I would consider it harassment. He tried contacting a few more times and got zilch out of me and eventually it stopped, I think when it became clear to him that I genuinely didn't care about him anymore. I didn't explain the cut off with him because I was worried about the other girl's safety. Because he had shown himself to not be who we thought he was, it was this total mess and we didn't know how stable he was. He also would have explained everything away and there was just no point. So basically, I think it depends on the situation as to whether it is weak or strong. In my instance I think it was strong because I was so invested at the same and had put up with so much from him. I think if it was a good relationship and you do that then it is weak and unfair to the other person.
River Rain Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I did it. Well, he sent me the "let's be friends", i.e. "I'm dumping you" email, and I never contacted him ever again, so maybe he said the goodbye for me? He wanted to continue contact - which he'd done before as a way of stringing me along...but for me it was just over at that point, no need for my input anymore. But yeah, I decided to go strong and delete him from my life. It was the only way I could get over it.
2sunny Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Yes, I've done it. The reason? To restore some balance - I had handed him too much of MY power. 1
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I did it as well. It was almost a year relationship, I started to see a change in her, we hit a rough spot where she started arguing with me (3-4 day period). Arguing over really petty stuff. The 4th night she said "I don't know if this is working, maybe we shouldn't be together", I slept on the couch and the next day I gave her exactly what she wanted. I left at 4am, I couldn't be there another second, I hopped in my corvette and it felt amazing to get away from her. I never called her again, I never picked up the phone, I completely cut her off. I forgot about everything except the bad last 3-4 days, and I didn't want to go back, ever. 3
witmadskilllz Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 After 2 weeks of post breakup, I had realized my ex was already seeing someone. Wrote her a final letter to see if we had any more chances of working this out, she cut off all contacts afterwards and told me on the phone not to talk to her again. I was fine with it since I did mention that if she was happy with someone already then best of luck. 2 years later, I get a text from her, nothing really though, just her name on it to indicate her new cell # to me? Well.. I don't know if she's still together with the rebound, quite possible.. but why would she still have my cell# for so long? Good thing is, I didn't bite and remained NC ever since and still going.. I'd say we've switched it around so she ended up 'contacting' me in the end and I just cut her off 1
Sugarkane Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 After 2 weeks of post breakup, I had realized my ex was already seeing someone. Wrote her a final letter to see if we had any more chances of working this out, she cut off all contacts afterwards and told me on the phone not to talk to her again. I was fine with it since I did mention that if she was happy with someone already then best of luck. 2 years later, I get a text from her, nothing really though, just her name on it to indicate her new cell # to me? Well.. I don't know if she's still together with the rebound, quite possible.. but why would she still have my cell# for so long? Good thing is, I didn't bite and remained NC ever since and still going.. I'd say we've switched it around so she ended up 'contacting' me in the end and I just cut her off Good for you for not being sucked in again. It's weird how they breakup with us, yet keep our numbers years later! Stuff that! 1
robaday Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Ive just been cut off, its been pretty painful, I didnt harrass her or anything, just wished her the best. I know why shes done it, weve gotten back together before (a lot of times) and she simply didnt respect me. Im pretty sure there was someone else involved though, all the signs were there, lack of respect, continual "tests" accusations of cheating, hiding things, it was super paranoia which I have never experienced before. Ive not contacted her since she told me to not contact her again, and blocked me on all websites. Im not planning to either. For a long long time.
Marques_Gil Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I was the one tu cut off actually, my ex broke up and came with "lets be friends", for some months I was into but then I look closer and told her that what we had now was no friendship. We rarely spoke to each other, haven´t been together even for a cup of coffee since the broke (and we broke up almost half an year). This "friendship" was born from a BU and I felt like I was demoted or something. In order to restore some balance I told her that her role in my life was over, she got a little pissed though lol. This is my thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/352207-my-experience-resolution
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