foretale Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I've been conflicted in the past year ever since the first girl I dated. I'm 20 years old. I didn't have a girlfriend in high school and now a relationship is something I want. I learned the hard way this year that you can date more then one person... I dont understand the whole concept of dating more then one person at once. I mean sure its fine if say you go out with a different girl in the same week... meeting her for the first time. But, as soon as you start being intimate with each other, and sharing personal stories it just doesn't seem morally right to date other people... I cant do it can anyone share their opinions?
yongyong Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 You sound like a 'nice guy' (aka BETA). the thing is that's the dating culture here. you either take it or meet someone unique who doesn't follow typical dating culture here (I am from the culture where you can be a couple even before kissing. If they kiss, they automatically become a couple) I can guess 2 scenarios. you will meet a nice girl like you. After kissing and some intimate action, you talk about her being your GF. She will appreciate your sweetness and gladly accept it since she is not a slut who kisses a guy without planning to be in a relationship. there is a low chance for this though. you will meet a typical girl. After kissing and even fuxking her regularly, you talk about the relationship. you are basically saying 'I don't want you go out with other guys and I won't talk to other girls either' she will just look at the first part and label you as desperate man. you will keep doing this till you learn the hard truth. IMO, when you are trying to make some action with her, you are the one who has to initiate as a Guy(approach her, get her number, ask her out, ask her out again etc) But when it comes to a relationship, she is the one who has to initiate. You have to look competitive in her eyes. You have to show her you will be banging other chicks on the side Or eventually move on to another chick if she doesn't bring it up first. It's her job to chase you for the relationship. you must be able to show you are willing to walk away since you got her pussy anyways. If you show any desperateness, she will run. 1
Woggle Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 It is not wrong but men like you get eaten alive.
threebyfate Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 This is more of a personal preference than a must do or moral of one way or another. You'll find plenty of people who multidate and plenty who don't. Either way, do it with integrity instead of the childish game playing that so many indulge in.
Author foretale Posted October 17, 2012 Author Posted October 17, 2012 You sound like a 'nice guy' (aka BETA). the thing is that's the dating culture here. you either take it or meet someone unique who doesn't follow typical dating culture here (I am from the culture where you can be a couple even before kissing. If they kiss, they automatically become a couple) I can guess 2 scenarios. you will meet a nice girl like you. After kissing and some intimate action, you talk about her being your GF. She will appreciate your sweetness and gladly accept it since she is not a slut who kisses a guy without planning to be in a relationship. there is a low chance for this though. you will meet a typical girl. After kissing and even fuxking her regularly, you talk about the relationship. you are basically saying 'I don't want you go out with other guys and I won't talk to other girls either' she will just look at the first part and label you as desperate man. you will keep doing this till you learn the hard truth. IMO, when you are trying to make some action with her, you are the one who has to initiate as a Guy(approach her, get her number, ask her out, ask her out again etc) But when it comes to a relationship, she is the one who has to initiate. You have to look competitive in her eyes. You have to show her you will be banging other chicks on the side Or eventually move on to another chick if she doesn't bring it up first. It's her job to chase you for the relationship. you must be able to show you are willing to walk away since you got her pussy anyways. If you show any desperateness, she will run. Awesome advice thanks man! It's true and I think i've gone through three girls now. Very outgoing good looking girls who are so into me at the start. I fall for them to soon make it easy for them... and their gone in under a month...
CC12 Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 It's not wrong. But you'll have to be aware that not everyone shares the same beliefs that you do, so you just have to be prepared for that and communicate well and don't get too close with someone before you know they're on the same page as you. Don't worry, your morals won't cause you to be eaten alive by she-beasts or whatever. Plenty of women share your beliefs, and the ones who don't aren't compatible with you. So find out first before it goes too far. 2
threebyfate Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Awesome advice thanks man! It's true and I think i've gone through three girls now. Very outgoing good looking girls who are so into me at the start. I fall for them to soon make it easy for them... and their gone in under a month...Moral issue. Yeah.
yongyong Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Cool man, I thought you would understand with your mind but not with your heart. But since you had those experiences anyways, you just need to remind yourself with your past bad experiences. Again, your morals don't mean sxit if other are not following it. Not throwing trash on the ground when other are doing it one different thing. You might feel guilty talking to other girls while dating a girl. the thing is how do you know she isn't doing the same thing? would she appreciate your nice behavior if you choose not to talk to other girls? or would she say 'I didn't ask you not to talk to other girls? WTF?' Would you feel very dumb at that moment? what kind of risks are there if you talk about relationship first? In the end, it depends on the girl and you need to calibrate it right. Awesome advice thanks man! It's true and I think i've gone through three girls now. Very outgoing good looking girls who are so into me at the start. I fall for them to soon make it easy for them... and their gone in under a month...
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