lawlessloveless Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Hi all. I recently posted about my boyfriend and I getting back together and there being another woman during the period that he and I were broken up. Everything has been sorted out - he was set up with her and there were things he said he found very unattractive about her, so he stopped all contact with her before we got back together. She still texts him. He doesn't reply and he's shown me these messages, so I believe him. The thing is, she uses twitter like a psycho and my friend showed me her tweets...they're ALL about him. She says she hates that he won't text her, she asks why. Her friends tell her she'll find someone knew. I AM SO JEALOUS! I feel like she has her foot in the door. I know he loves me and it's very bad to be jealous...but I need help. I shake, I feel sick, I wanna cry sometimes it's so intense. She doesn't know who I am and obviously doesn't know he's with me. I'd love to message her with an FYI, but I don't want to start drama. LL
skywriter Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 (edited) Hi all. I recently posted about my boyfriend and I getting back together and there being another woman during the period that he and I were broken up. Everything has been sorted out - he was set up with her and there were things he said he found very unattractive about her, so he stopped all contact with her before we got back together. She still texts him. He doesn't reply and he's shown me these messages, so I believe him. The thing is, she uses twitter like a psycho and my friend showed me her tweets...they're ALL about him. She says she hates that he won't text her, she asks why. Her friends tell her she'll find someone knew. I AM SO JEALOUS! I feel like she has her foot in the door. I know he loves me and it's very bad to be jealous...but I need help. I shake, I feel sick, I wanna cry sometimes it's so intense. She doesn't know who I am and obviously doesn't know he's with me. I'd love to message her with an FYI, but I don't want to start drama. lawlessloveless, Your boyfriend sounds like he's really trying. The unattractive statement, ahhh, not really kind nor necessary but anyway..... About the jealousy, you can handle this...first, consider that she's like you, just a girl. She saw, all the elements of your boyfriend that makes him the guy that you obviously adore. Give her credit for just being a girl, she's human, just like you, hurts like you, loves like you. Feel secure with you, and the fact that your boyfriend wants you. But don't demonize her, she isn't a threat, she's just a girl, just like you. I so understand jealousy though, I've been through it in the past and I got angry at myself because I knew I was a bigger, more mature, woman than that. So I just taught myself to rationalise and I realised it was or probably was about a need to control or not lose control of someone I cared for. I didn't want to be insecure, so I humanise situations if and when I think I may get that jealous urge. It helps alot. At the end of the day, people are going to do, whatever it is that they choose. So, my jealousy, or in this case your jealousy, will have been all for naught. Except to keep yourself tied up in knots. I imagine you may be saying, that's easy for me to say, eh?! LOL! Edited October 17, 2012 by skywriter 1
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