Midnight Magic Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 What do you say to you partner of 6 years when he gets pissed off at you for wanting to be at work on time. This morning at the local coffeeshop we were having our morning coffee, and after sitting there for 45 minutes, reading the paper, I tell him that I have to be at work in 15 minutes and I do not want to be late. I am ignored. Then 5 minutes later I tell him you better drink your coffee we have to go soon. So he gets all huffy and says well lets leave right now, so we did and he never talked to me the whole 10 minutes back to the office. Am I being unreasonable that I want to get back to work on time, it is our yearly evaluation coming up tomorrow and I hate being late even if it is not my evaluation. But it is a different story when it comes to him getting to work on time. He hates being late, bottom line. Then last night he is really sick and throwing up and feeling crappy. He has diabetes so I tell him lets go to the doctor and he says no. Then he keeps asking me why is he sick and I say I don't know I am not a doctor, and then he gets mad because I don't care. What do you make out of this!! I get screamed at for nothing.
dreaming4ever Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I'm no Dr.Phil but I'd say there's other things that are going wrong with your relationship that this situation is about....like something that's been stressing your partner out that's making him take his crabbiness out on you....or something he is angry at you about.....think hard and you should be able to figure it out. Maybe he was just having a male PMS day!
Pained Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I agree with what the previous posted said, although I'd also like to make a suggestion: get your own car. That way it's totally up to you when you get to work.
Tech76 Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Yes, find another ride. He sounds kind of uncaring about your needs.
CurlyIam Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 As far as I know, it's difficult to disociate bad state of mind and physical discomfort. I think he's sick, I think he wants attention. I think maybe he craves a bit more attention of you. Boys do stupid things in order to get that, You can always scream at him for being an inconsiderate bastard and take a cab, but I'm guessing that's not necessarily the solution to your problem. Tslk to him more, make him oppen up and set an appointment to a doc ASAP. Meybe he's sicker than you think and he's afraid to tell. And as you don't see it, he gets frustrated... I don't know, the solution I see is talk to him more more more
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