barbossa Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I am not sure why both males and females displays sexy pictures of themselves in OLD profiles. Shouldn't a person want you for you, not your body? you can show your attractiveness without showing yourself in a mini skirt short shorts or men being bare chested? don't sexy pictures just illicit pervy responses? People can do what they want But its just my opinion.
SensitiveTJ Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Have you considered that the people posting "suggestive" or "provocative" pictures know exactly what they're doing? They post sexy pictures because that's what they are looking for: casual sex. Not really a mystery, to be honest.
ascendotum Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 How is this different from wearing revealing or figure hugging clothes out to a club or bar? I want a woman for her personality and her body. Physical attraction is very important to me and its more than just her face. Though I fully agree with you, that you can promote yourself without having to display a pic of yourself wearing a mini skirt or bare chested. The people doing this are proud of their figure and figure its a aspect of themselves that's worth promoting. A guy can wear a t-shirt and still do that and the woman can wear tight jeans and still do that. A woman who puts up a pic of her in a mini skirt, for sure is going to get more responses, but I don't think she will be doing herself a favor by doing this. Chances are she would have got a lot otherwise, but now guys will focus on her from the sex aspect and less for a LTR. Displaying lots of skin isn't going to get her a better quality man for a LTR, but it could get her a man with a hotter body then she would have otherwise, but the odds are this guy that was only attracted to her because of the miniskirt image wont be on the scene for too many months.
mtnbiker Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 In my opinion there is also a large difference between a self shot picture either in a short, tight skirt(woman) -or- a in the mirror shirtless pic(guy), than a natural out and about picture taken by a friend or ex at an event, party or beach/pool. 1
phineas Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Have you considered that the people posting "suggestive" or "provocative" pictures know exactly what they're doing? They post sexy pictures because that's what they are looking for: casual sex. Not really a mystery, to be honest. Except, most of the profiles I see with a woman's cleavage, provocative pictures also have them bitching about guys sending them pics of their junk, no first dates at anyone's house & they are a lady, blah,blah,blah. You put up a neck down shot of you in a bikini, on your bed in lingerie, or a cleavage up shot where you are clearly naked & you are surprised by the men who contact you? I don't even....
SensitiveTJ Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Except, most of the profiles I see with a woman's cleavage, provocative pictures also have them bitching about guys sending them pics of their junk, no first dates at anyone's house & they are a lady, blah,blah,blah. You put up a neck down shot of you in a bikini, on your bed in lingerie, or a cleavage up shot where you are clearly naked & you are surprised by the men who contact you? I don't even.... Well, I would argue that those particular women are still looking for sex. They just aren't getting messages from the guys they want to have sex with. They know what they want, but only a specific type of guy is going to give it to them. 1
CptObvious Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 There are a million free meals, movies, rides etc on the line here. If I was a girl I'd do anything I could to never have to pay for food, gas, or rent ever again. C'mon ladies, there's no shame in putting your superpowers to good use.
phineas Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Well, I would argue that those particular women are still looking for sex. They just aren't getting messages from the guys they want to have sex with. They know what they want, but only a specific type of guy is going to give it to them. Those same women also say they want a relationship & aren't looking for sex. Now, I am totally agreeing with you on what their looking for. But do they have to make themselves look completely retarded doing it? All I can think is I hope the guy wears a rubber & she doesn't breed.
veggirl Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 You put up a neck down shot of you in a bikini, on your bed in lingerie, or a cleavage up shot where you are clearly naked & you are surprised by the men who contact you? I don't even.... do you really see profiles with those kinds of photos? is it common...? how embarrassing for them....what if their neighbor or coworker stumbled across that? lol damn
SensitiveTJ Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 do you really see profiles with those kinds of photos? is it common...? how embarrassing for them....what if their neighbor or coworker stumbled across that? lol damn It actually is quite common. But it's pretty easy to just chuckle and move on.
phineas Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 do you really see profiles with those kinds of photos? is it common...? how embarrassing for them....what if their neighbor or coworker stumbled across that? lol damn yep. more than a handful of profiles like this in the age range I search for which is +/- 40. (my age). These are women who are empty nester's or never had kids. A few have the (don't live with me) which I hope means out of state or in college & not that the courts awarded the dad custody. Cause then that mean she cray-cray with a meth addiction to spice things up. The profiles themselves hurt my eyes to read. Honestly i'm finding more profiles of women in their early 30's that are better matches for me according to OKcupid. Mostly single mom's with younger kids done with the bar scene like me.
kaylan Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I am not sure why both males and females displays sexy pictures of themselves in OLD profiles. Shouldn't a person want you for you, not your body?OKCupid did a study on this and sexy shots do get you more responses provided you actually have the body to be taking such pictures. And your body is a part of who you are. Lets stop with the bubblegum fantasies. Looks matter and looks count towards selecting a mate. The same way personality does. you can show your attractiveness without showing yourself in a mini skirt short shorts or men being bare chested?Sure you can, but as I said...the stats show that showing skin helps. If people want to enjoy their sexuality and show it off, then let them. don't sexy pictures just illicit pervy responses? People can do what they want But its just my opinion. Women get pervy responses no matter what their pictures tend to look like based on what my chick friends have told me. When I had skin pics up, I did get some comments on it, but it was usually an afterthought for the women who contacted me. They made sure to try to have a real convo with me first and then lightly mention that they noticed my body. 1
SJC2008 Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 There has been an EXPLOSION of bikini pics in profiles! Hell sometimes they're even the main profile pic. Is this the equivalent if the male shirtless bathroom mirror pic?? Who knows. IMO it's they're either AW's or are telling you with these pics to be sure you're punching in your league!
irc333 Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Or how about standard modeling photos in "MAXIM Magazine" poses? ;-) Nice! VERY nice! Seems she doesn't mind. LOL
veggirl Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Okay well if a girlfriend of mine had "sexy" shots of herself scantily clad on a dating site and was looking for a real relationship, I would tell her "wtf are you thinking?!?!?!" It portrays a certain image to most people, one that does not really come across as "serious relationship material" to have photos of yourself in lingerie/bikinis on a dating profile. Whether that is right or wrong is beside the point. *Most* people are going to think "sex" when they see stuff like that. Yes attraction is important, but you should be able to tell someone's body type by fully clothed photos that show their body. I'm pretty sure we all are aware of "myspace angles" by now, so you can discount those photos. I would NEVER put up a photo of myself like Phineas described he comes across. I would die of embarrassment. My body is perfectly fine, and you can tell without me posing in a bikini lol. Plus...leave something to the imagination ffs. Why would you want virtual strangers basically knowing what you look like naked? 2
oaks Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I am not sure why both males and females displays sexy pictures of themselves in OLD profiles. Shouldn't a person want you for you, not your body? People get criticised when they don't post a full-body shot to show their general body shape (because the viewer can't tell if they are secretly fat). So, when posting a full body photo... why not make it a sexy one? Should it be a frumpy one instead? Looks like there's no pleasing some people.
phineas Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Okay well if a girlfriend of mine had "sexy" shots of herself scantily clad on a dating site and was looking for a real relationship, I would tell her "wtf are you thinking?!?!?!" It portrays a certain image to most people, one that does not really come across as "serious relationship material" to have photos of yourself in lingerie/bikinis on a dating profile. Whether that is right or wrong is beside the point. *Most* people are going to think "sex" when they see stuff like that. Yes attraction is important, but you should be able to tell someone's body type by fully clothed photos that show their body. I'm pretty sure we all are aware of "myspace angles" by now, so you can discount those photos. I would NEVER put up a photo of myself like Phineas described he comes across. I would die of embarrassment. My body is perfectly fine, and you can tell without me posing in a bikini lol. Plus...leave something to the imagination ffs. Why would you want virtual strangers basically knowing what you look like naked? There is a 44yr old mom that has a picture showing her mid-section from the side while she is lying down. However she is showing off her tatoo on the side of her body which is actually an inspirational quote by a historic figure & she has a 4yr degree. I can see why she'd post that because tattoo's like that can be a deal breaker for a lot of guys. Also, it shows she is in shape. It's tasteful enough & her profile written intelligently enough that i'm willing to give her the chance to ignore my message. ROTFLMAO!
phineas Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 People get criticised when they don't post a full-body shot to show their general body shape (because the viewer can't tell if they are secretly fat). So, when posting a full body photo... why not make it a sexy one? Should it be a frumpy one instead? Looks like there's no pleasing some people. sure, but to me profile pics should represent how you dress normally in public. If you live in Florida or California then yeah, bikini pics & shirtless pics (if you are in shape) wouldn't phase me. I'm sure going to the beach is an acceptable date in those locations hence swimwear pics would be in order. Also, it isn't the pictures themselves that bother me, it's the accompanied profile text with them. They essentially read "don't message me for sex i'm not that type of woman & believe in friends first. By the way, how do you like my tits?":confused:
irc333 Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 People get criticised when they don't post a full-body shot to show their general body shape (because the viewer can't tell if they are secretly fat). So, when posting a full body photo... why not make it a sexy one? Should it be a frumpy one instead? Looks like there's no pleasing some people. Not sure what that has to do with anything. I usually prefer at least a waist up photo. A sexy one isn't necessary. They could be in a dress, T-shirt/jeans, shorts even....doesn't need to be Fredericks of Hollywood
irc333 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Woops....even OK Cupid has 'em. lol Not a bad looking Asian gal Too funny, when you try to send her a message, it says, "Out of message storage!!" So yeah, she's got her list of emails to get busy spamming (if she is a "SHE" LOL) Sometimes I wonder if they go that far...it could be just a fake ad, too. Trying to bait men??
phineas Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I'm on my cut now. In a few months when I got that 6-pack i'm really tempted to put up a shirtless pic just to see if my response rate goes up. Well, actually at this point it can only go up. LOL! Still not sure about the classic bathroom mirror pic. However, the polar bear swim will be in early March. Perfect excuse to be shirtless. If i'm still single by then I seriously doubt I have anything to lose. I just hope my twig & berries don't snap off in the water. LOL!
kaylan Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Woops....even OK Cupid has 'em. lol Not a bad looking Asian gal Too funny, when you try to send her a message, it says, "Out of message storage!!" So yeah, she's got her list of emails to get busy spamming (if she is a "SHE" LOL) Sometimes I wonder if they go that far...it could be just a fake ad, too. Trying to bait men?? Wow, that photo is way too try-hard. And the chick has no shape to her ass. So whats she showing off? Oh wells, I hope she isnt looking for guys who will respect her when shes got pics like that up. Its one thing to have beach pics, or even progress pics from the gym that show off your figure....but obvious self shots from your bed? No thanks.
Eve Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I am not sure why both males and females displays sexy pictures of themselves in OLD profiles. Shouldn't a person want you for you, not your body? you can show your attractiveness without showing yourself in a mini skirt short shorts or men being bare chested? don't sexy pictures just illicit pervy responses? People can do what they want But its just my opinion. It depends. Some people are looking for casual sex and some people think that is what is necessary to get attention. Depends what a person is looking for I suppose. My brothers Boss posted some normal pics of himself and fully admitted that he is a geek etc .. and he is doing great.. he had LOADS of responses and is now out of the dating phase with someone very special. I think it is for the individual to be true within how they portray themselves. As long as like minded people get with like minded people, all is well. I would only feel badly for someone if they were showing themselves off thinking they had to do that in order to get attention.... Take care, Eve x
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 I put a cleavage shot on OKC recently and my messages trippled. It wasn't even a sexy pose. I was just sitting at a cafe with a tank top on and the top exposed some cleavage.
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