tyronm21 Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 So I've known a girl for a few years now and when I tried to let her know I had a crush on her she told me she thought I was just a friend. We have hung out, just the two of us since then. I also picked her up from work early when she was sick. Then she had stopped taking my calls or answering my face book messages. I did ask her if she was OK and if there was anything I could help her with, but she didn't reply. I even apologized because I thought she was ignoring me because of something I did. Turns out she had a boyfriend for about 2 months, I found out on my own. She didn't say anything to me about it. Around a week later since I sent her a message, she replies. She says she is OK, there isn't any serious problem she is in. She also said I shouldn't get mad if she doesn't reply to my calls or messages. She ended the message by saying that she will send me a message and we will meet up soon. I suppose she doesn't know that I know she has a boyfriend. A week later I sent her another message asking how she was and if everything was still OK with her. No reply. I know she has seen the message, and I know she hasn't stopped replying to any of her other guy friend messages since she had a boyfriend. I'm struggling to understand this. I don't know if she is trying to not hurt my feelings or she doesn't want to tell me because she wants to keep me around as a future option or she's using me? Has this happened to any other guys out there? Also, ladies have you done this to any guys? Can I have some possible reasons?
InJest Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 She's ignoring you for your own good, and because you've made things awkward. She's obviously not interested in you, and she's mature enough to realize that you probably always wanted to date her, but didn't have the balls to ask her out. Don't befriend women you are attracted to. Ask them out, **** them, and if they aren't cool with any of that..drop them altogether.
River Rain Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 She told you from the beginning that she thinks of you only as a friend. You keep trying to contact her, maybe a little too much for her liking? If she's committed to her boyfriend, it's no wonder she doesn't respond to you. I think maybe her saying you'll meet up is just a way of letting you down easy and making her not feel guilty. It's too bad she won't just come out and say it, but some people are selfish that way. I think you should just leave her be. As for your other question, my answer is no, I've never beat around the bush with a guy. I'm direct and honest because I would want a guy to be the same with me if he weren't interested. I've been strung along in a relationship and it ended in heartbreak, so I think all the mixed signals and game playing is just plain unfair.
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