bluelights Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 He dated another girl after me... I can't get over it? So me and him dated for a while in middle school, then we broke up .In high school, we dated for a while and then broke up again; he dated another girl for the remainder of high school (2 years), and then they broke up. He's back with me now, and we're in first year college. I loved him the whole time, he didn't even know. We were each other's first loves and he told me he thought about me a lot during the time we were apart. He initiated contact with me before college and I was the one who kept breaking up with him during middle school. He says he had dreams about me and he shows me everyday now that he loves me; he definitely matured from middle school/beginning of high school when we dated. But I can't get over the fact that he dated another girl. I dated other guys too, but I was always in love with ONLY HIM. He fell in love with that other girl when I couldn't even feel nowhere near love for any other guy. It makes me question his feelings for me before, and also now. Can I trust him now? I keep thinking about what him and that other girl had, and it makes me jealous but more than anything it brings about bouts of anger because i dont understand how he can love anyone else (i know, its irrational) Should I not trust him? After all, in middle school he told me he'd nnever love anyone else, that im the only one, etc, and even though we broke up i thought wed get back together and itd be the same. now hes telling me the same things (he loves me, wants me so much) and he SHOWS it too, but its just that he said the same things in my past . he's a genuine guy but i dont know. i've loved him for soo many years and i dont want to be blinded by love. whats your take on it? can you gve me advice?
InJest Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 My take on it is that you should get the **** over it. 2
CptObvious Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I think it's best to let your relationship die out naturally.
Author bluelights Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 You are fine. It simply means you are still innocent and without malice. First love is an amazing experience and is to be cherished. For a woman that is a veteran and is hardened this may be nothing. But you are sweet and without malice. Nothing wrong with that. Let some time go by and see what happens. First love is amazing. I've always felt like he is The One for me. I just feel so incredibly insecure knowing now that he had loved someone else. It's like, I wasn't able to love anyone else because my feelings were so strong - and if he loved someone else, then clearly his feelings for me weren't the same as what I felt for him, and that's where the hurt and insecurity comes in. I just want to know that I was on his mind throughout those years - he tells me i was, but I don't know if that's true. I just want to know his love for me was always different. But I'm scared to really ask.
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