guydownsouth Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 (edited) Ex-gf dumped me about 6 weeks ago. I sent her a friendly text message two weeks later, she gave a friendly response, but then she ignored my next two text messages. I then blocked her from my Facebook to help me get over her. So I've gone no-contact for 3-4 weeks, except a couple times when I saw her in passing at school, in which case I smiled and only said hi and was on my way. Fast forward to today.. I ran into her at 8 am this morning while we were both walking to school. We were coming from different directions headed to the same intersection, which meant we were going to meet in the middle. I looked at her about 20-30 feet away, she smiled, I smiled back, and she then immediately made a phone call rather than talk to me. So I proceeded to walk to the school, with her about 5 feet behind me, on the phone. I am shocked and a little offended. Was making the phone call childish of her? Can anyone explain her actions? Edited October 16, 2012 by guydownsouth
Chi townD Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Sure, she doesn't want any weird interactions with you. She's trying to get over you OR she did something that she knows that you've might have heard i.e. went on a date, and she doesn't want you to ask her about it. It's childish and immature, but it sounds like you're young, so it's normal. Besides, you're supposed to be in NC anyway. So, she did you a favor.
Author guydownsouth Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 (edited) I assume her actions are an indication that she has absolutely no interest anymore? We're 22 if that's considered young, Idk Edited October 16, 2012 by guydownsouth
2sunny Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 She purposely avoided communicating with you - it's obvious you should move forward and not interact at all anymore. Even if you see her on the street - don't smile - don't say HI! - since she doesn't want to interact - don't interact at ALL!
Author guydownsouth Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 She purposely avoided communicating with you - it's obvious you should move forward and not interact at all anymore. Even if you see her on the street - don't smile - don't say HI! - since she doesn't want to interact - don't interact at ALL! I feel like if I pass right by her in school and don't give a simple hi, I'm being immature too.
Chi townD Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I feel like if I pass right by her in school and don't give a simple hi, I'm being immature too. Do you say "Hi" to every Tom, Dick and Harry in the hallways? Look, you have to look at your realtionship as a job. SHe fired you from that job. She told you that your services as a boyfriend are no longer required. Now, if you ever left a job, are you still sending everyone there christmas cards every year? No! you move on to the next job. 3
flitzanu Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 what chi town said. quit passing her in the halls, walk another direction. bumping into her once is a coincidence, bumping into her every day means it's intentional. she's making it rather obvious she has no intention of talking to you.
Author guydownsouth Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 what chi town said. quit passing her in the halls, walk another direction. bumping into her once is a coincidence, bumping into her every day means it's intentional. she's making it rather obvious she has no intention of talking to you. It's always been coincidental (small school) Question- Maybe she snubbed me because something is bothering her? I have no clue. Can I ask her if that is the case? The snubbing this morning made me really uncomfortable. I remember around 5 years ago I had a friend who I asked on a date function and she turned me down saying she'd be out of town that weekend, but her plans changed and now she was going to be in town that weekend. She ended up going on the date function with one of my friends and never told me until I saw them at the function. She snubbed me the next few weeks when I saw her. I sent her a message, told her I wasn't mad and that I missed our friendship, and she apologized and everything was worked out. Obviously this isn't exactly the same situation, but still...
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 No, don't ask her. Terrible idea. Only reason you are asking her is because you are trying to look for any excuse to talk to her. And she'll see right through that. If she wants to talk to you, she will. And hopefully if she does, you will have moved on and not care what she has to say.
KatZee Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 She's "snubbing" you because you're an EX and I think that's what you're not getting. She doesn't feel comfortable engaging in conversation with you. There's nothing wrong with that. She's not your friend, she's not a family member, she's your ex. Stop trying to be "a friend" and most certainly do not ask her if she snubbed you because something's bothering her. The only thing that was bothering her was that she got stuck at an intersection with you.
Author guydownsouth Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 Thanks, I'll continue to go NC. I'm guessing eventually (a few months) she'll stop being so cold when I see her around school. Time heals all. I have to keep remembering that for myself too. Though, I'd been doing fine the last few weeks until this morning when I saw her and she snubbed me. Wish I hadn't bumped into her.
Calico Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I'm guessing eventually (a few months) she'll stop being so cold when I see her around school. Time heals all. Time heals better if you shift your thoughts: "I'm guessing eventually (a few months) I'll not worry about whether she's cold or not when I see her around school, because her reactions won't matter to me anymore." 1
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