Wellnowuknow Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Ok so I've been with my bf for about 8 months now and everything is perfect. I couldnt ask for anything more. He treats me like a queen. But then there's the love of my life. I met him in HS and we dated for a while I lost my virginity to him, and he was my first love. We broke up then a year later I saw him again and he had a GF, but he said fater seeing me again he realized he loved me and we tryed at it again but turns out he never left the girl said he couldnt decide so even though it killed me I decided for him and left the picture. Never heard from him again I changed numbers and so did he after a while and I never knew what happened to him. Took me two years to get over and I'm still kinda sour over it and I always think of him as the one that got away. My BF now is the only one I have been able to have and trust and open up to since my first love. Well today a friend of my ex's and mines calls me and leaves a message saying he found my ex spoke with him and he has his number if I'm interested in calling him. I have the number, and its just sitting there beggin to be dialed. A part of me wants to call and see whats up and get closure but a part of me knows better. I dont want to ruin my relationship with my current BF but The number just keeps calling me... I always thought my first love was my soulmate and we would meet again and since we ran into eachother after a year and now I'm running into him again after 2. Fate? I dont know? Should I even go there? or just crumble the number and keep him as what he is.. The one that got away?
Pained Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 No. Absolutely not. You're just feeling that normal human emotion of wanting what you can't have. This guy didn't even call you. It's not like he's come back pledging his undying love and promising to correct all former mistakes. In fact, he was cheating on you. First loves can seem so much more important than they really are. But why would you want to give someone who treats you so well up for someone you're just having fantasies about? Throw out the number. And then realize that there are people out there who would LOVE to be in the relationship you're in right now. You got your closure when the two of you broke up.
chicasha Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Throw out that number girl!!! First of all.......the mutual friend who told you your ex wanted your number....well, can't your ex get YOUR number from him/her and call you instead? if he really wanted to connect and initiate something.....he'd bend over backwards to do it. in this case...he doesn't even have to bend over backwards...he just needs to ask his friend how to get in touch w/ you....its not hard. so..the fact thta you're the one who has his number sitting in front of you.....its calling for YOU to make the move....that's too easy for him!!! don't do it...ur in a great relationship.....don't risk that. burn it..throw it away...shred it....do whatever...but just get rid of the number.....and go give a huge hug to your current boyfriend :-)
Author Wellnowuknow Posted July 29, 2004 Author Posted July 29, 2004 You guys are right. This all happened like 2 mins ago so I'm still a little in shock. I didnt even think of the fact that its been two years and he could've gotten the number from my guy friend and called me. So typical of him. I will throw the number out and as for my closure throwing out the number will do me just fine. Thanx you guys I was weak for a moment there my bf definitely doesn't deserve it. He's incredible and even takes off my shoes and rubs my feet after work. lol I can't give that up. Thanx Guys!!
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