evilla24 Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Me and my ex dated for 5 years... we were extremely close and had a great relationship with tons of memories...sometimes we had problems... we were very young and when we hit the 5 year mark things slowed down a bit...she started college and I was working alot.... so we broke up...I was ok with it because I honestly wanted some time off also but we always talked about getting back together... After about 8 months of being single yet still dating occassionally, kissing, saying i love you...and that we were going to get back together etc... one day I see that she has a bf on facebook... which i didnt know about... all of the sudden she tells me that night when I confronted her that she was with him now and that she loved him...not me and that I should just accept it and move on.... This was tough and it hurt so much but after a while I jsut had to accept it and just lived with it.... she still called once in a while to see how I was and keep up with our families but it was behind her bfs back...once he found out he blocked all my numbers from her phone and since he is a cop prohibited going near me.... she still would call from he house phone once in a while I met an amazing girl and I love her... I really do... we talked for a while and she is now my girlfriend... I love her a whole lot and she is nice and cute and funny and we get along soo well... once my ex found out she started crying on the phone and told me she didnt want me to be with her... that she still loved me... that she hoped we broke up and that she hated her.... she said she was sorry about her mistake and about screwing me over and to leave my gf... i told her no and that she was going to have to deal with this jsut like I had to deal with her bf.... I waited for 2 years for her....and NOW is when she tells me all this.... I jsut want some advice on what I should do.... i mean I am staying with my gf i know that...but what do I do about my ex? thanks!
gamman Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 You're ex has been stringing you along. She wants to have her cake and eat it too -- and she has gotten that. She's been throwing you some bread crumbs every now to keep you on the hook -- WHILE SHE DATES --, but once you actually doooooooooooo meet someone nice that you like and start to move on, well..... we have seen how she reacts. Anyways, you already know all that. You don't want someone like that in your life let alone actually be with someone like that. Plus, dude, it's your ex, it's been two years, time to move on with life without her -- that's usually how these things work. What she has done has been so disrespectful, hurtful, and rude to you. Learn from this, and DO NOT allow yourself to ever be in a situation like that again or allow someone to treat like that ever again. NEVER. EVER. NEVER. EVER again! NEVER! Okay. So your ex gf has treated you like absolute crap, basically like you're e garbage, for about 2 years. You want to move on. So, what do you do? Actually MOVE ON! I'd just go NC and genuinely go forward with your life without her. That's it. Trust me, if you are truly ready to move on, and have started dating again, you don't want this ex around. You heard it so many times -- exes are exes for a reason. Again, NC contact, for the reason to finally get her out of your life, to get over her, and move forward. It might be hard, severing that bond with someone who has been in your life like that for so long usually is, but it will be so freeing once it's finally over and you've done it. Trust me. Good luck out there. 2
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