Bike1 Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I am very confused . Here is a little background. My Fiancé and I split up last week after 3 Years we are both in our early Thirties and we both agreed this is the right thing to do. We fought and argued at least 5 or 6 times a week and they were pretty bad arguments. We also really did not spend a lot of time with each other over the past year or so even though we lived together She did her thing and I did mine. A lot of my Activities lately have revolved around physical activity and Hers did not (I have lost 100 pounds over the last 7 months I need to stay active to keep it off). But the thing is we loved each other very much and we still do but the constant arguing and fighting have taken its toll especially on me . We both agreed we need space apart . we have talked about this in the past but never did it until now . Are lease was up this month and it seemed right at the time. Well it has been a week now and I thought I was handling the situation good until I spoke with Her This afternoon and she tells me how much she loves me and misses me very much and I feel the same way but I know deep down that it will all go to hell again in a few months the same as it has done countless times before. And then there is The BIG FACT that I really want a family and she is very unsure if she wants one . And we are not getting any younger. I just don’t know what to do I hate to see her this unhappy it upsets me so knowing that she is sad. I want to make her feel better but I do not want to be back in the same situation again . Any advice . Thanks
Artifact Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Either stay separated and seek counseling, or call it quits. You are probably right that moving back in together now would set you up for disaster.
manofmystrey Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 hey Bike1 First congrats on losing the 100 pounds. Second if u do want a family and she is unsure that should be a big factor in any decision u make at this point. Also if u do decide to get back together dont move ni with each other right away untill u can get things sorted out. also u have to make choice that is right by u and what will make u happy in the long run. I made the mistake of doing things that made my ex happy cause i could not see her unhappy and she split on me the first chance she got and she told me she did not care about my happines. Not to say that all people are like my ex but u have to do what is right for u and not for anyone else. Hope that helps.
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