narf04 Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Hello all, I (26) have been in a relationship with a girl (also 26) who I met online for almost two months now. Things were going great and I met her whole family at a wedding two weekends ago. I spent the whole weekend with her. It went good, and she confirmed this. Well, I was invited to her friends gathering this past Saturday a while back. The week between we texted briefly each day. It seemed like she was becoming more distant judging by the texts from prior time. Saturday rolled around and we texted in the morning about random stuff. I asked her in the afternoon about what the plan was for the party and she replied she was already there and it was further away than she thought...I said I didn't mind the drive and was looking forward to going. At this point I was wondering why she had already left and not said anything to me. She gave me directions and asked me to bring a few things. I was on my way for the 2 hour drive. When i got about a half hour away, she said there was some drama about a new person coming out to the property and it was best if I didn't come! I was floored. I called her and she said she would explain the next day. She sent me a text apologizing and I turned around. When I got home I sent a text saying " that was a long drive home. I really like you, but if i'm wasting my time, let me know. She again apologized. Next day I get a text at 4 in the afternoon saying she couldn't call cause of a family event and that she was sorry. Then proceeded to say that the owner had an argument with his son about having a new person out there at the party. Even though the son and his wife had already told her that i was invited. I suspected there was something else at hand, but didn't pry much. I left it at that and said i forgive you. I didn't try to contact her anymore and was waiting to see if she would. Tonight: she asked how my day was and i replied and she said how hers was. She replied and I made a joke and never heard back from her. You think she just needs some time? I also tried to get her out to meet my friends on Friday night and she said she was tired and didn't want to. I feel I have to initiate everything we do together. Maybe I'm trying too much too fast? Not sure how to go about things? Or if Saturday was what she said and not something more? She still texted me today, but I'm not sure how to handle things. If you can't tell i'm not very experienced with relationships. but I really do like her. Any advice appreciated. Thanks
gamman Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 (edited) If she is interested, she has a very peculiar way of showing it. No. She doesn't need more time. She seems sorta, kinda interested, but not really THAT interested. More kinda like she just wants attention every now and then. Move on. There's someone better out there for you Honestly, after reading your post, rather than wondering if she was interested in me, I'd be wondering why I was interested in her. And with the drama you mention and way she has treated you, I wouldn't be. Just stop initiating communication with her. No need to make some big thing or really even address it. If you do hear from her again, just be brief and friendly, but gently push her away -- don't really engage a conversation. I don't think you'll hear from her much more, though. The whole 2-hour drive party thing was rude, ridiculous, and inconsiderate on her part. If she really liked you, she would have ditched the silly drama at the party and went and hung out with you. A bunch of other red flags in your post, too. If you feel bad that she's not interested, don't. This is a blessing in disguise. Work on establishing and enforcing your boundaries, too. Keep moving forward. Good luck. Edited October 16, 2012 by gamman
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