newborn25 Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Hi everyone, I have reached a point where I had to make a decision about my friendship/ relationship with a girl and hope to hear any advice that you kind folks may have. I have been dating this girl for close to two months and lets call her Jo. My friend actually tried to match-make the two of us together so there were clear intentions that we were dating each other to find out whether are we suitable for each other. Two weeks ago, I told her that I like her but she said she was unsure of herself. We been to many dates but it was only until I make my feelings clear that I really felt her opening up to me. She said I was very different from other guys that she dated before. Her family, colleagues and friends knows that we are dating each other and they all have a very good impression of me too. She was quite reserved before that. She started sharing more about herself and we became closer. I tried probing the reasons for her previous behavior and she told me she had her fair share of previous bad relationships and she wanted to take time to know someone before committing. In the meantime, I presumed she was also dating/ seeing other guys. Even though I feel our relationship is advancing, I still sense something holding her back. Through her twitter posts, I came to realize that she still seem to be unable to forget her exbf. I talk to her before about this - she reassured me that the relationship is already over but confessed that she will still think about it sometimes. That is the biggest reason that I am worried about. Somehow, I have the feeling that I am being taken on a ride or she is just treating me as a backup. Even if not for her ex-bf, I am not sure whether is she just dating me until a better guy comes along. She is a hottie and so has other guys going after her, which she admitted too. I hope I am not being too sensitive but the alarm bells seem to be ringing non-stop. My friends has actually repeatedly advised me to move on but I wanted to give her more chances until today where I felt that its really getting too tiring for me. Just feel that I do not deserve all this uncertainty. I still have a date coming up with her this weekend and I am thinking that this will be my last shot with her. Any thoughts? I feel that if a person really like another person, it should really be quite obvious and pretty straightforward. What is with these pushing and pulling games :s
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