I can't keep my hands off him! What am I supposed to do?!

[Merenishen]

I haven't felt this way about someone in a LONGGGGG time.

 

Met a guy two weeks ago. He's 22, I'm 19. I haven't dated since I was with my ex-boyfriend a year ago (was an abusive relationship). But with this guy, something just "clicked" the first time we met. We started talking, and conversations just started to flow and flow. For the first week or so, we were texting almost 24/7. I finally saw him again this past Saturday after talking non-stop for 2 weeks, and although I'd told myself I'd keep my hands to myself until I knew him better, it was IMPOSSIBLE to control myself. We walked around town for hours in the rain until like 3am. I'm not a big fan of PDA, but now I understand why some people do it.

 

We went out again yesterday night for a few hours, and again, same thing. I was fine for a lil bit, but once we went at it, I just couldn't keep my hands off the guy. We'd be walking, stop every few minutes to just kiss. When he finally walked me home at 9pm, I actually didn't get inside my house until past 10pm. We'd stop, I'd make to leave, and he'd just pull me back in. The butterflies are RAMPANT.

 

I told him first day we saw each other again (Saturday) and when we started to get all hot and steamy that I wasn't going to sleep with him. He understands this, and says he doesn't expect me to. Although I haven't known him for long, my gut feeling just tells me he wouldn't really pressure me into it or be disrespectful about it.

 

He texts me ALL the time: when he's at work, at home, first thing in the morning, and again right before sleep - he actually ****ed up his sleep schedule talking to me. He actually told me yesterday that although he's going to be working 10 hour days for 6 days this week, he's still going to find the time to see me again. In a nutshell, I know he's not after me just for sex. ZERO of our conversations are about sex or even CLOSE to mentioning it.

 

We planned to meet again tomorrow before we both head off to work (we both start work at 3pm). We both like video games, and he wants me to go to his place to play some Xbox with him in the morning. It sounds like a great activity to get to know each other over, but I've got the hots so bad for him I KNOW we're probably not going to get much video game playing done. I don't think I'd go as far as have sex with him, or even go SUPER far (he's respected me so far, and he hasn't even tried to "grope" me or anything of the sort). Should I wait a few more dates before going to his place? At the same time, even out in public hasn't stopped us from keeping our hands and lips off each other, and I feel at least indoors we're being more respectful towards the outside world and actually "getting a room."

 

I actually like this guy, and I actually want to get to know him and not rush into anything. But how the hell am I supposed to get to know him if this sexual tension between us is so SUFFOCATING?

[FitChick]

I say go for it. It sounds like he is into you as much as you are into him. Don't tell him your plan, just claim later that he seduced you and he is so damned sexy that you couldn't resist, something like that has never happened to you, etc. He will love it!

 

Just make sure you use birth control.

[AsItIs]

Uh oh!

 

You guys are definitely gonna be boneing!

Just don't regret it like I do! I started a thread called "Had sex on our 3rd date!Did I ruin our chance?"Not saying it will totally ruin things but I definitely wish I could have kept my hands of of him for a little longer.

[todreaminblue]

I haven't felt this way about someone in a LONGGGGG time.

 

Met a guy two weeks ago. He's 22, I'm 19. I haven't dated since I was with my ex-boyfriend a year ago (was an abusive relationship). But with this guy, something just "clicked" the first time we met. We started talking, and conversations just started to flow and flow. For the first week or so, we were texting almost 24/7. I finally saw him again this past Saturday after talking non-stop for 2 weeks, and although I'd told myself I'd keep my hands to myself until I knew him better, it was IMPOSSIBLE to control myself. We walked around town for hours in the rain until like 3am. I'm not a big fan of PDA, but now I understand why some people do it.

 

We went out again yesterday night for a few hours, and again, same thing. I was fine for a lil bit, but once we went at it, I just couldn't keep my hands off the guy. We'd be walking, stop every few minutes to just kiss. When he finally walked me home at 9pm, I actually didn't get inside my house until past 10pm. We'd stop, I'd make to leave, and he'd just pull me back in. The butterflies are RAMPANT.

 

I told him first day we saw each other again (Saturday) and when we started to get all hot and steamy that I wasn't going to sleep with him. He understands this, and says he doesn't expect me to. Although I haven't known him for long, my gut feeling just tells me he wouldn't really pressure me into it or be disrespectful about it.

 

He texts me ALL the time: when he's at work, at home, first thing in the morning, and again right before sleep - he actually ****ed up his sleep schedule talking to me. He actually told me yesterday that although he's going to be working 10 hour days for 6 days this week, he's still going to find the time to see me again. In a nutshell, I know he's not after me just for sex. ZERO of our conversations are about sex or even CLOSE to mentioning it.

 

We planned to meet again tomorrow before we both head off to work (we both start work at 3pm). We both like video games, and he wants me to go to his place to play some Xbox with him in the morning. It sounds like a great activity to get to know each other over, but I've got the hots so bad for him I KNOW we're probably not going to get much video game playing done. I don't think I'd go as far as have sex with him, or even go SUPER far (he's respected me so far, and he hasn't even tried to "grope" me or anything of the sort). Should I wait a few more dates before going to his place? At the same time, even out in public hasn't stopped us from keeping our hands and lips off each other, and I feel at least indoors we're being more respectful towards the outside world and actually "getting a room."

 

I actually like this guy, and I actually want to get to know him and not rush into anything. But how the hell am I supposed to get to know him if this sexual tension between us is so SUFFOCATING?

 

 

think of labradors alot..cute little puppies golden balls of fluff....i have a cotton wool phobia so i think of that.if i touch those cotton wool balls lol ....body shivers yuck...........honestly if you want to get to know him first spend more time on the outside of his house do the gardens and double date....you can have will power ill vibe it to ya.....vibin........will power for hands off.....smilin....good luck.....deb

[Ninjainpajamas]

It sounds like he's pretty into you from what you're describing, and being a 22 year old you'd expect more pressure, so that's a good thing.

 

It's also a plus you've known him for quite a while, although don't think knowing someone before hand gives you some kind of guarantee or insight into how a relationship would pan out, so just keep that in mind as well, don't set yourself up to be "surprised" in that way.

 

I think you should still spend time getting to know each other, you're only 19, your last relationship was a bust therefore anything this guy does is going to shine through twice as bright because you've been in the gutter...try not to be in that mindset where you are comparing, remember the real thing is about emotions and IF he's looking for a relationship.

 

You're still quite young, so the future is not really as important as the present right now but there's no drawbacks in getting to know him more and taking it slow, the tension isn't a bad thing....as much as you want to just dive in, the quicker you dive the less aware and much more emotional you'll become than you are right now and even until then, going to be much logical thinking rather than just trying to repress yourself...which of course just makes it all the more tempting and irresistible If you have a human brain in your head.

 

Talk things out with him and communicate, try to build more trust with him about important things, get to know who he is and share more about who you are. After you have sex with a guy is typically when they'll drop the act and start revealing what they're truly interested in by their actions, and that's when you have to be the most aware.

 

Everything right now can be great, but he's not been able to sleep with you and for men that's a very strong driving force until you're actually older IMO...and even then for a lot of guys, man....It's a bit ridiculous and childish really...so It's honestly going to be hard to tell until then how he really feels.

 

I'm not saying you're necessarily doing anything wrong or neither is he at this point...however I do find it a bit comical that you've said you haven't felt this way in a loooong time and you are only 19 , what you know and have experienced is still very limited. Just be aware that this is normal, don't go out and do anything too silly because of the emotion.

 

I would wait until going over his place, stay outdoors and in public or you're going to start doing some hormone behavior for sure...kissing and holding is fine, I'm good with PDA personally. However don't expect that you going over his place won't lead to anything, especially sex...don't be that naive and clueless...sex happens easily, what do you think you're setting yourself up for going to his place with a bed? So If you mean what you say, don't put it up like a challenge, just tell yourself you're still getting to know him and what he is about, and what's the rush If you're building a strong foundation for something that may actually last?

[InJest]

Don't go to a guy's house for a date unless you're willing to have sex with him.