badplace Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 i recently split from my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years, and the mother of my child in july. she got with one of her best male friends straight after us and it seems as though she is infatuated with him. the relationship is official now and it crushes me to know she is with another man.. the dust still hasnt settled since we broke up as we are constantly arguing badly over her being with the guy.. she knows i still love her more than the world and that i would do anything to have her back in my life so we could be a family. she keeps telling me she doesnt want to get back together. I have said and done some stupid, almost crazy things. this guy earns alot more money than me and they look pretty serious already.. im even going to counselling to try and get my head straight but all this has been so hard to take... im worried that we will never be together as a family again.. ive told her as our child is only 10 months that i dont want to give eachother xmas from presents from our daughter out of anger.. just the thought of her with this guy drives me insane. im so confused at what to do as i told her if i get another chance to make our family work that i will grab it with both hands, she said im not the man she fell in love with and that who knpws if we will get back together in the future.. we will have days where we get on and days when i get nasty because im still hurting. there have been times when i can see in her eyes that there is still somthing there. is there still hope or have i blown it by reacting like a mad man... although all the people i have spoken to say they probably would have done worse... I REALLY NEED THEM BACK IN MY LIFE any advice please ;(
Author badplace Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 i am a full time carer for my mother so i didnt show her enough affection or time so i asked for a break to get my head straight.. we were going to sort it out and i was going to move in until i found out she was seeing her friend and denyed it until i had proof.. we were madly in love, she has messed around behind my back before, twice. i always forgave her and we were so mutch stronger the second time round, she now lives in a new flat with no memories of me, not even a pic that my daugher can see. i genually am a good guy, i work as a bouncer for a living so pride is a big factor and i have been crushed. she said the only thing that would make her even think about sorting it out would be if i was to leave her alone.. i have never raised my hand to her.. i would still protect her with my life and she knows it.
ReadMyThread Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 i recently split from my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years, and the mother of my child in july. she got with one of her best male friends straight after us and it seems as though she is infatuated with him. the relationship is official now and it crushes me to know she is with another man.. the dust still hasnt settled since we broke up as we are constantly arguing badly over her being with the guy.. she knows i still love her more than the world and that i would do anything to have her back in my life so we could be a family. she keeps telling me she doesnt want to get back together. I have said and done some stupid, almost crazy things. this guy earns alot more money than me and they look pretty serious already.. im even going to counselling to try and get my head straight but all this has been so hard to take... im worried that we will never be together as a family again.. ive told her as our child is only 10 months that i dont want to give eachother xmas from presents from our daughter out of anger.. just the thought of her with this guy drives me insane. im so confused at what to do as i told her if i get another chance to make our family work that i will grab it with both hands, she said im not the man she fell in love with and that who knpws if we will get back together in the future.. we will have days where we get on and days when i get nasty because im still hurting. there have been times when i can see in her eyes that there is still somthing there. is there still hope or have i blown it by reacting like a mad man... although all the people i have spoken to say they probably would have done worse... I REALLY NEED THEM BACK IN MY LIFE any advice please ;( OOOOOOUUUCH! This girl f***** you over dude. Trust me, YOU DO NOT WANT HER ANYMORE! YOU DON'T! Even if you had a kid with her, trust me you don't. If she were to come back now, it would only be for the wrong reasons now. The ONLY reason she will come back is if she gets dumped by this new guy. That means she will only come back to you if she has nobody else to be with. Pretty much USE you and then she will dump you again when she finds another guy she thinks will be better that you. Would you want that? She left you because she feels she can do better. Let her be with this dude and let her realize that she can't do better. (or maybe she can, she may be happier with him than with you but I don't know how you two were and how you treated her so...) Then when/if she comes back, don't even talk to her. Your better than this. You don't want her man. You don't. Right now you do but give it 2 months of NC and you will be like me. My ex who was my first true love left me for another guy close to 2 months ago. I don't want her back. I still love her yeah but If she were to come back and ask to be with me I would laugh in her Motherf****** face and tell her how pathetic she is. Your ex girl will get her karma. She might come back and she might not. Best thing now to do is move on without. Focus on you and your kid and forget about her. It will be hard but time makes everything better. Take it from me. Going throught the same thing. I wanted my ex back for like the first 4 weeks she left me but then it hit me like, wait a minute, this girl LEFT me for ANOTHER GUY!? lol. Why would you want someone back who doesn't want you? 2
Author badplace Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 thanks my friend, i know... i just dont se quitting as an option. im the one who pushed her to this guy through neglect.. all im woundering is if i have a chance.... all seems hopless but she is the love of my life and she said im the love of hers
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