Extremely sticky situation

[HelloEveryone1986]

Hi guys,

 

I am in a bit of a pickle and would really appreciate some advice. I'm not really sure how to start this story, so I hope it makes sense to those of you who read this.

 

I know these three girls, let's call them A-B-C. The three of them are best friends (something I didn't know until recently). A while back, I slept with girl A.

 

Fast forward to the present, I meet girls B and C. I hang out with girl B and end up sleeping with her as well. We talk, and she mentions that girls A-B-C are all best friends. I decide to be honest and tell girl B that I have a past with girl A. Girl B then proceeds to freak out, but gets over it eventually. Girl B and I didn't date or anything, we just hooked up a few times.

 

Girl B and me stop hooking up. I start talking to girl C more, who is overall a great person. We hang out 1 on 1 a few times, and I think that I am genuinely starting to like her. However, the biggest obstacle is that I was being an idiot and slept with both her best friends. I know that this bothers her, but I have hope because she is still willing to hang out with me despite knowing what I've done.

 

We go to dinner one night, I want to tell her that I like her, but was afraid to do so. I decide to go in for the kiss instead, but she turns her head.

 

Now, I just realize as I'm typing this that I sound like a total douche with no morals, but I still need your help and would greatly appreciate it if you kept the bashing to a minimum. I also admit that it was just a game at first, but I've developed real feelings for this girl.

 

I just want to know what's going on in her head. I figure after the failed kiss attempt, that she doesn't like me. Then I start asking myself why she hangs out with me so often, despite the history I have. Maybe she just wants to be friends, and enjoys my company. Then today, I ask her if girl B knew that we hung out and talked to each other often and she replied with a "no" and tried to downplay how many times we've gone out. These two tell each other everything, so why was hanging out with me never mentioned during their conversations? Does she like me, but is being cautious?

 

I guess my question is: what in the world is going on here? Thank you.

[WonderKid]

I'm pretty sure every guy on here or in the world has slept with a "best friend" before. Me personally I don't do the best friend thing if I'm attracted to them. It's either I'm her bf or fwb that's it. Or she'll just be a person I know.

 

You should ask her how she feel. You shoulda asked her before you tried to kiss her. You said that you know this bothers her. But how? Did she tell you? You should talk to her about it and get it out of the way.

 

Because in honesty it will make you guys or break you guys. If you do get together and never speak about it, the thought of you being with them might bother her if you don't talk it out. She's friends with A and B and it'll not only create tension between you two, but her friends as well. And if you do talk it out she might not go with you at all. It's a chance you gotta take.

[HelloEveryone1986]

Hey WonderKid, thanks for the reply.

 

They're both equally physically attractive, but I find girl C's personality much better. I never planned on being in this situation. You are 100% correct when you say I should have asked how she felt. I am not very good when it comes to caring about someone, so it was really hard for me to ask her.

 

I know it bothers her because I asked girl B if C knew what happened between us. She replied that C knew everything and 'might not be bothered by it in a few years.' And to be honest, I would be bothered too if someone I liked slept with both of my best friends.

 

You are definitely right. I will try to find a way to bring this up to her so we can discuss it, and get it out of the way. The last thing I want is to be 'just friends'

[WonderKid]

Best of luck man I hope it works out really! I'm rooting for you!