suggs113 Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 So my girlfriend has real issues. Whenever we go out or anything like that, I almost feel as though I shouldn't talk to any girl who is slightly attractive as it will just cause drama. I'm not allowed to even say if I think someone on the tv is fit! The other day when we were out, I bumped into a girl I know from work and was chatting to her, then as I said goodbye I blew a kiss, which if you know me (and my girlfriend does) Is something I do all the time, it dont mean anything. Yet i'm the one who should be jealous as she still see's her ex, who comes round her house when i'm not there, but I trust her, so why isnt she the same? Oh and of course its fine if she see's a lad and says he fit. So should I just tell her to shut the hell up and have the row? Or should I just accept that i'm not allowed to speak to any other women? As she seem's to think when a man gets with a girl all other women should seem unsexuallly attractive.
Shaun-Dro Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 So my girlfriend has real issues. Whenever we go out or anything like that, I almost feel as though I shouldn't talk to any girl who is slightly attractive as it will just cause drama. I'm not allowed to even say if I think someone on the tv is fit! The other day when we were out, I bumped into a girl I know from work and was chatting to her, then as I said goodbye I blew a kiss, which if you know me (and my girlfriend does) Is something I do all the time, it dont mean anything. Yet i'm the one who should be jealous as she still see's her ex, who comes round her house when i'm not there, but I trust her, so why isnt she the same? Oh and of course its fine if she see's a lad and says he fit. So should I just tell her to shut the hell up and have the row? Or should I just accept that i'm not allowed to speak to any other women? As she seem's to think when a man gets with a girl all other women should seem unsexuallly attractive. I'd tell her to stuff if, period. Women will never be happy no matter what you do for them.
lemonlegs Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 So my girlfriend has real issues. Whenever we go out or anything like that, I almost feel as though I shouldn't talk to any girl who is slightly attractive as it will just cause drama. I'm not allowed to even say if I think someone on the tv is fit! The other day when we were out, I bumped into a girl I know from work and was chatting to her, then as I said goodbye I blew a kiss, which if you know me (and my girlfriend does) Is something I do all the time, it dont mean anything. Yet i'm the one who should be jealous as she still see's her ex, who comes round her house when i'm not there, but I trust her, so why isnt she the same? Oh and of course its fine if she see's a lad and says he fit. So should I just tell her to shut the hell up and have the row? Or should I just accept that i'm not allowed to speak to any other women? As she seem's to think when a man gets with a girl all other women should seem unsexuallly attractive. It all depends on the situation. I don't really know if I'd like my boyfriend 'blowing kisses' to other girls, and I wouldn't consider myself insecure. It's just plain disrespectful and something you shouldn't really be doing in front of your girlfriend (not that you should do it behind her back either). As for calling celebrities or something "hot", I don't see it as a big deal myself. However, if you do it on the daily about every single good looking girl, then yes, it would get extremely irritating. Maybe you're just a jerk and don't realize it? Haha.
olivec Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 So my girlfriend has real issues. Whenever we go out or anything like that, I almost feel as though I shouldn't talk to any girl who is slightly attractive as it will just cause drama. I'm not allowed to even say if I think someone on the tv is fit! The other day when we were out, I bumped into a girl I know from work and was chatting to her, then as I said goodbye I blew a kiss, which if you know me (and my girlfriend does) Is something I do all the time, it dont mean anything. Yet i'm the one who should be jealous as she still see's her ex, who comes round her house when i'm not there, but I trust her, so why isnt she the same? Oh and of course its fine if she see's a lad and says he fit. So should I just tell her to shut the hell up and have the row? Or should I just accept that i'm not allowed to speak to any other women? As she seem's to think when a man gets with a girl all other women should seem unsexuallly attractive. Been there bro and trust me it gets worse over time. You can either address it now or have it result in a major fight and then have the relationship be over. Ofcourse you dont want that last part to happen so you calmy talk to her and lay it all out. The key is to let her vent if she needs to then reassure her its nothing and you love her and nobody else.
raea Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I agree with lemonlegs. I wouldnt want my boyfriend blowing kisses to another girl, and he wouldn't want me doing it to another boy. But, I also wouldn't resolve to never speak to a female again. My exhusband was very insecure like that, and I gave up all my male friends for him. It didnt work. He still found things to be jealous about. We divorced, and now I'm out a few good friends because its been years of no contact, they feel disrespected for being written off, and he is out of the picture. Just saying. If they are truly JUST platonic friends, or if you're just saying hi to an acquaintance, is that really something you can promise to never do again?
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