Sarah89 Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 My ex broke up with me a week ago after a year and a few months. We've been no contact for the week, well I have. He's been smiling at me in classes and he spoke to me briefly today asking where I was going. I see him everyday at college, literally I see him all the time as he's in my friendship group too. I'm struggling to cope, I miss him and seeing him everyday isn't helping. He's treating me as a friend and is making it clear he has moved on. I need to know how to cope with seeing him at college all the time, it's so difficult.
katy1151 Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I feel your pain. My ex broke up with me a month and a half ago, and we also go to the same college (even live in the same dorm!) My recommendation would be to go into no contact. I understand that it is difficult since you share the same friends (I also had that but in the end my friends chose me over him), but it will help you get over him faster. I had to do the same thing, so I ended up joining a sorority a few days ago so I could have a wider circle of people to hang out with. Unfortunately, he is in a fraternity so I do have to deal with seeing him at socials, but I am not going to change what I do because of him. Maybe you could talk to your friends about letting you know when he will be hanging out with you guys? Are there any clubs you can join? I started working out as well, which helps me take my mind off of him. Another thing I have learned the hard way (and am still learning) is that you have to try not to care about what he does. Eventually, you may see him hanging out with other girls and trust me, it HURTS. But you are no longer with him, so do not worry about him. Worry about yourself. You are the most important person right now. Time heals all wounds, so you will be okay. It doesn't feel like it right now, but just make sure to surround yourself with family and friends and focus on yourself. Also, I looked at your old posts and saw that he got dumped out of the blue as well. Same thing happened to me and he couldn't explain why he was doing it. We can get through this! As my friends say, "You are a strong and independent woman!"
Author Sarah89 Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 (edited) I feel your pain. My ex broke up with me a month and a half ago, and we also go to the same college (even live in the same dorm!) My recommendation would be to go into no contact. I understand that it is difficult since you share the same friends (I also had that but in the end my friends chose me over him), but it will help you get over him faster. I had to do the same thing, so I ended up joining a sorority a few days ago so I could have a wider circle of people to hang out with. Unfortunately, he is in a fraternity so I do have to deal with seeing him at socials, but I am not going to change what I do because of him. Maybe you could talk to your friends about letting you know when he will be hanging out with you guys? Are there any clubs you can join? I started working out as well, which helps me take my mind off of him. Another thing I have learned the hard way (and am still learning) is that you have to try not to care about what he does. Eventually, you may see him hanging out with other girls and trust me, it HURTS. But you are no longer with him, so do not worry about him. Worry about yourself. You are the most important person right now. Time heals all wounds, so you will be okay. It doesn't feel like it right now, but just make sure to surround yourself with family and friends and focus on yourself. Also, I looked at your old posts and saw that he got dumped out of the blue as well. Same thing happened to me and he couldn't explain why he was doing it. We can get through this! As my friends say, "You are a strong and independent woman!" Isn't it so hard just seeing them everyday? I'm at no contact at the moment and to be honest I'm doing better than I thought I would . Working out would be a good idea for me, but I'm thinking of getting a job so I can earn a bit of money and keep busy. It sounds like you've coped well though, joining a sorority is a good idea as it's a good thing to hang with new people, makes you feel better and more confident too. Yeah, he's been flirting with a few girls, even when I'm there. It does hurt you're right, I know he just likes the attention so I won't worry. As you say, I'm the most important person to myself at the moment and time does heal wounds, luckily the holidays are coming up so I'll get time to do things with friends and family. He did dump me totally out of the blue, I couldn't believe it was happening if I'm honest haha, sounds so silly now. We can get through this, you're right! And thank you for posting, it's made me feel better . Being a strong and independent woman doesn't sound like a bad thing at all anyway . Edited October 15, 2012 by Sarah89
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