DontWorryBHappy Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Guys, I need a shoulder to lean on. I like my best friend, but haven't told him. We talk every day and see each other a lot. I finally told another one of my friends..the first person in real life who knows. My friend that I told is "Z" and best friend that I like is "S". Well last night without my knowing, Z texts S about a trip that S and I are planning. Then out of the blue Z texts him, "you like her!" but S texts her "no.. we just found some good deals". How do I know that this happened? Because S visited me today at work and relayed this whole text exchange, while I stood there like a loser thinking, "yea, but I like you.. ugh". So now, S basically just told me that he doesn't like me. The urge to just say screw it and tell him was really high after he left today, but I texted Z and she suggested that I don't say anything... It's a sad feeling though. My thinking: If I tell him right now, maybe theres a chance he actually does feel the same and lied to Z.. or maybe he would end up liking me once he finds out I like him. OR... things get very awkward and it ruins the friendship completely, and destroys the trip we just planned to take together. At the moment? risk seems too big, want to keep my mouth shut. But it sucks a lot. a lot.. alot.
xdahliax Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I don't think it means that S doesn't like you. I've actually been in this position recently. I've had feelings for a friend of mine for a while and apparently it seems like we're dating to a lot of people. A mutual friend (actually, more of an acquaintance) told me that we should be dating and that it was clear there were some feelings there. I denied it, just because I didn't feel it was any of that person's business. If anything, he might have told you that story just to gauge your reaction. I'd just tell him.
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 what if I tell him and it goes horribly? we have a trip planned for new years! >_<
xdahliax Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 what if I tell him and it goes horribly? we have a trip planned for new years! >_< I don't see how horribly it could possibly go. You guys are close friends, he wouldn't want to hurt you. Just play it cool when you tell him and it shouldn't scare him off.
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 Z tells me to say nothing but a lot of people on LS have said just do it.... I dont know what is best. How should I tell him, if I decide to? Do it in person? I might pass out.
xdahliax Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Z tells me to say nothing but a lot of people on LS have said just do it.... I dont know what is best. How should I tell him, if I decide to? Do it in person? I might pass out. Do it in person. Z doesn't think you should say anything but at the end of the day it's your problem so you make the decisions. I think you'll feel better once it's all out in the open, you won't have to obsess over every little thing S says and does anymore. You won't have to wonder if he feels the same way. If you don't say anything, it is very likely that at one point he will fall for some girl and you'll regret not saying anything.
AsItIs Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Have you ever watched that show on MTV? I think it's called "friendzone?" I think at one point, you probably should tell him but.... Probably not until after your trip. It could go either way-He may feel the same,He may not but, it does sometimes ruin the friendship so be careful & go with your gut.Goodluck!!!!
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 YES, I was thinking of waiting until after the trip too. That way I can ensure that it will be a good time without any weird awkwardness from him knowing something like that. We've spent money on this trip. In my opinion, it would be wrong of me and even selfish of me to say something now... to book a trip with him under the pretense of us being friends, then make him feel weird the whole time because of me liking him.. I just cant do it. our trip is from christmas until new years.. so ill tell him in 2013.. maybe right at the end of the trip or something.. 1
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