Relationships on Steroids - moving in together waayyyyy too fast

[mammasita]

I'm old(er) , have been married, have a kid, been divorced and have been subject to one too many relationships that have ended in disaster.

 

I know why though, I move too fast.

 

Moving in after 2 months is not a good thing. Sure it can work sometimes, but I think more often than not - with me falling into the NOT category for all intents and purposes - it fails.

 

My current situation is another example. We moved in after two months and last week, almost two years later, it came to a head.

 

We lacked proper communication and didnt get to know eachother well enough when we jumped from going on two dates to living together.

 

I know the common thought is that we are moving backwards, but I think there is hope here. He needs to find himself and stand on his own two feet. I need to work on myself and work on my relationship with my son. We are staying committed but moving back into the stage where we date eachother and build a good foundation.

 

I'm sad and heartbroken to see what we had come to an end, but am hopeful and looking forward to a deeper, closer relationship.

 

I guess the point of this post is to see if I'm thinking clearly.

[pink_sugar]

I agree, 2 months is definitely too soon. I've only been in one relationship and I waited over a year to move in...mostly because I was underage. If I could go back and do it differently though, now that I'm more mature, I would have taken things slower. We saw each other everyday and every moment we could be together. I realize now that we should have kept it to a few times a week...to keep things special and not overwhelming and chaotic when parents were involved. It really takes time to get to know someone.