samldn Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 (edited) So first post here. Right long story short, i met this girl through a friend about a month ago at a event, we got on quite well, had quite a laugh. I didn't really think anything of it, she added me on facebook and sent me a message, we was chatting for pretty much the whole weekend, like all day. After a couple of days i asked her if she wanted to go for a drink, after going around the houses for a few days she said no. I accepted that and left it at that. We swapped numbers and carried on chatting, she was pretty constant with the messages and being quite flirty at times, she finally admitted that shes "kinda seeing someone" so like before i accepted it. She still kept sending me messages at times would not leave me alone, keeping on if i was short with answers. Im pretty confused with the whole thing, i dont know if shes interested or is just playing games. She just seemed very keen, to message someone you hardly know that much. She seems like shes had a bad experience with her ex and wants to take things slowly, she even asked if thats what i would want. Anyway over the past week or so shes been very very quite, from messages all day every day to nothing. Ive asked if everything is ok and she just says yes. I actually do quite like her and would happily still be friends, i dont know if i should just leave it and completely back off or just be straight and ask one more time whats changed. Your thoughts? Edit: I forgot to add theres a bit of a age gap, shes early 20's and im mid 20's. Edited October 15, 2012 by samldn
mammasita Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 It sounds like she's more involved now with the person she was "kinda seeing". 2
Author samldn Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 It sounds like she's more involved now with the person she was "kinda seeing". I was thinking that, but it was like a change overnight. Actually during the day. Im thinking i should just leave it and not contact her unless she does first. I dont really wanna do that but its doing my head in a bit and im thinking that might be the best option?
NateC Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I was thinking that, but it was like a change overnight. Actually during the day. Im thinking i should just leave it and not contact her unless she does first. I dont really wanna do that but its doing my head in a bit and im thinking that might be the best option? Definitely. It's important to not invest too much into her if she's "seeing someone". Don't completely forget about her, but make her do a bit of the chasing to see if she's actually interested or just wanted someone to talk to.
Author samldn Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 Definitely. It's important to not invest too much into her if she's "seeing someone". Don't completely forget about her, but make her do a bit of the chasing to see if she's actually interested or just wanted someone to talk to. Yeah i tried that and she wouldn't leave me alone, now shes gone all quite again. Maybe she just dosnt know what she wants, i think your right tho, i'll just back off again for a bit and see what happens.
Oxy Moronovich Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Since when is early 20s and mid-20s "a bit of an age gap"?
Author samldn Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 Since when is early 20s and mid-20s "a bit of an age gap"? Theres 6 years in it. Im not sure if thats the problem. I understand she says she seeing someone but she never talks about him, never says shes done anything thing with him, always her girl mates. I dont know if im over thinking but shes literally gone from non stop messages all day everyday to hardly anything, i dunno if ive come on to strong, if ive not come on strong enough, i dont really know what she wants from me. Ive asked her if everything is ok, she says yeah, i dunno if im coming across as a complete weirdo to be honest.
Author samldn Posted October 19, 2012 Author Posted October 19, 2012 Bump! Any more thoughts on this?
Sunlight72 Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 My thought is that you should get on with your life without her. If she were interested in you romantically, with all the time she's spent on texting she would have made time to meet you in person and get something started. If you are 'friends' with her, you are just tying up your time and attention and making it harder for yourself to meet a romantic match. Also, once you meet a romantic match you won't have much time to text/chat with her and (as you're finding out) that is a bit confusing/impolite to the person being side-lined to drop them somewhat 'mysteriously'.
Author samldn Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 My thought is that you should get on with your life without her. If she were interested in you romantically, with all the time she's spent on texting she would have made time to meet you in person and get something started. If you are 'friends' with her, you are just tying up your time and attention and making it harder for yourself to meet a romantic match. Also, once you meet a romantic match you won't have much time to text/chat with her and (as you're finding out) that is a bit confusing/impolite to the person being side-lined to drop them somewhat 'mysteriously'. I might not like it but I think you may be right.
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