Hobbit Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 ... realised that I’m not, and I feel like ****e. I unexpectedly and stupidly slept with a friend Saturday. I thought I was ready for sex with other people but I’ve come to realise that I’m not, and I’m actually more vulnerable than initially thought. Not only have I probably ruined a decent friendship, but I feel like I’ve cheated on my ex. Stupid I know, she's not my GF anymore! So why do I feel so horrible? Why do I feel like the biggest ******* on the planet? The answer: I’ve been lying to myself; I’m not over my ex at all. Ugh, this BU is the worst thing emotionally I have ever been through. Someone stop this ride, I wanna get off!!! 1
Mcnulty Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 First off, try to talk to the friend, explain where you're at, you're mortified and you really don't want to lose the friendship, you've lost enough lately. You have not cheated on your ex, you have made an error of judgement, end of. Don't be so hard on yourself..it could've been a lot worse, you could have contacted the ex and went straight back to square one. Be kind to yourself, yeah, you're vulnerable and not ready, you've just stepped on the learning curve that is healing. Face it head on, day by day and baby steps...time is your ally, nothing else. 1
Pacman Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 You can't really cheat on a ex if you two are broken up. Everyone has their weak moments. You just happened to have one. I'm a guy and one of my female friends who has had the biggest crush on me got me drunk and took advantage of me after a break up. Needless to say I caved in being an emotional wreck. Getting some definitely got me to stop thinking about her BECAUSE.. I had to deal with the friendship that was on the verge of being broken Count it as a blessing to keep your mind off of your ex and focus on fixing your friendship with this girl
Author Hobbit Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 How do I go about fixing this friendship? I can’t even look her in the eye at the mo let alone say - I’m sorry but I’m a vulnerable fricking baby who’s easily led if you ply me with enough booze God, my head is a total mess. I just want to be single now, no women, just concentrate on a new career and my son
Recommended Posts