Mothmanismagic Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 This guy, who is literally one of my best friends has me pretty confused. He was absolutely destroyed by his last two relationships. I was there for him, knowing him these past 4 years we've gotten super close. We are eachother's go to for about everything. I'm relation ship traumatized as well. Except I just have trouble allowing myself to have emotions really. So neither of us are lookig for that at the moment. He suggested that we be sorta fwb. We flirt a lot. We haven't had sex or anything near yet. But I'm just wondering if this will end up as more than fwbs? He's never been in a casual type relationship, and he gets attached. He always tells me how he loves me so much and that I'm his best friend and such. I really do love him too, and he knows this. When he suggested this, I reminded him how bad I am at this, and he wants us to "help eachother" with our issues. What is he meaning? Does this sound like it'll remain too casual after all? We're together and hang out a lot. He will kinda flirt and stuff with others, but he always wants to be with me instead? He always plays with my hair and clothes. Sometimes he'll sit behind me and just hold there.
xdahliax Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I wouldn't risk being FWB with someone I'm in love with. You're looking to get hurt if and when you find out that he never wanted more than that. Talk about how you feel, what you want, and make the right decision afterwards.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Let me tell you why he is willing to risk a FWB with you. One, he's not thinking rationally, rather he's thinking like a typical man, one who has sexual needs. Since he is emtionally scarred and traumatized, he believes using you, a close friend, will be enough for him to get his sexual release without having to deal with the emotional side of things too. It saves him a lot of a headache. Well, guess what? Any friend who has the audacity to suggest an FWB is not a true friend. It makes him a very lazy man who is willing to risk a friendship just for sexual release. The whole FWB thing is a conundrum of words that should be eradicated for the sake of both sexes. You cannot be friends and have sex with each other.
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