heartbroken26 Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 It's been over 2 months of NC and my ex didn't come back for me. Yesterday was my 27th birthday and I didn't hear from him at all. I wasn't expecting anything out of him and I am glad he didn't contact me because its best that we move on. It just makes me sad that I spent the last 10 birthdays with him and yesterday was my first birthday without him. He's out of my life for good and has moved on with a new girl (he cheated). We spent 10 years together and he didn't even come after me when I left. He didn't even try. I just wish he picked me and not her. I guess it hurts more because of that. It just makes me sad to see that he can just leave and start over with someone new. He is living life and our break up doesn't even affect him. He seems happier without me and I am miserable alone. I know it would never work between us and I don't want him back. I got pass all of that. I moved on and I don't expect a call or to see him anymore. I'm just sad and lonely and just want to get over this phase. I'm sure I'll find a better guy who wouldn't cheat on me. I just turned 27 and I just thought I would be engaged and planning a wedding by now. This is not how I want my life to be. I never knew that losing him would affect me this much. I just want to be ok and live life w/o him. I'm use to being in a relationship and I just feel abandon. It's just not fair that I get the heartbreak and he is doing just fine. I can't burden my family and friends anymore about this, so this is where I vent.
bluefairy812 Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 It's been over 2 months of NC and my ex didn't come back for me. Yesterday was my 27th birthday and I didn't hear from him at all. I wasn't expecting anything out of him and I am glad he didn't contact me because its best that we move on. It just makes me sad that I spent the last 10 birthdays with him and yesterday was my first birthday without him. He's out of my life for good and has moved on with a new girl (he cheated). We spent 10 years together and he didn't even come after me when I left. He didn't even try. I just wish he picked me and not her. I guess it hurts more because of that. It just makes me sad to see that he can just leave and start over with someone new. He is living life and our break up doesn't even affect him. He seems happier without me and I am miserable alone. I know it would never work between us and I don't want him back. I got pass all of that. I moved on and I don't expect a call or to see him anymore. I'm just sad and lonely and just want to get over this phase. I'm sure I'll find a better guy who wouldn't cheat on me. I just turned 27 and I just thought I would be engaged and planning a wedding by now. This is not how I want my life to be. I never knew that losing him would affect me this much. I just want to be ok and live life w/o him. I'm use to being in a relationship and I just feel abandon. It's just not fair that I get the heartbreak and he is doing just fine. I can't burden my family and friends anymore about this, so this is where I vent. i understand you so much. my ex didn't put up a fight either. that f*cking hurts. 10 years is a LONG LONG time. so i understand how hurt you are. i'm sorry your dealing with this, it sucks right now, but as cliche as it is, this is happening for a reason. maybe so we can learn something out of it. it sounds like you knew the end was coming. are you doing anything new and refreshing to get your mind off of him? reading, the gym, getting a new pet, hanging with friends? your still young (i'm 26) so you have so much life ahead of you, you can do things now that you couldn't do before with your ex. i know it hurts like hell now trust me, i am dealing with it myself, but if it hasn't killed us, we definitely will be stronger <3 hugs.
Author heartbroken26 Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 (edited) i understand you so much. my ex didn't put up a fight either. that f*cking hurts. 10 years is a LONG LONG time. so i understand how hurt you are. i'm sorry your dealing with this, it sucks right now, but as cliche as it is, this is happening for a reason. maybe so we can learn something out of it. it sounds like you knew the end was coming. are you doing anything new and refreshing to get your mind off of him? reading, the gym, getting a new pet, hanging with friends? your still young (i'm 26) so you have so much life ahead of you, you can do things now that you couldn't do before with your ex. i know it hurts like hell now trust me, i am dealing with it myself, but if it hasn't killed us, we definitely will be stronger <3 hugs. Yes, I have tried new things. I reconnected with old friends, made new friends, new hobbies, work a lot more and plan on traveling. I am definitely doing a lot more than I would have if I was with him. Facing a lot of fears (heights). I started rock climbing with a group of friends and plan on sky diving soon. I would have never done this with him. Yes, it hurts and everything happens for a reason, but I just want to meet this new guy soon because I hate being alone. Again, friends remind me that I need to find myself first and I need to learn to be happy alone before I can meet someone else- I am doing it now. Some days I think of him less and some days I tear up because I miss what we had. I don't regret ever dating him. I am glad he was in my life for 10 years. I could have never picked a better partner to stay with for the last 10 years. The chapter of him in my life is over and I need to start a new chapter. I learned a lot with him and I wish him the best in life. I just wish the same for me too, but it's hard for me right now. Edited October 15, 2012 by heartbroken26
bluefairy812 Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 absolutely. get over him first and have time for yourself and really get to know who you are. i'm dating someone now and its not a good idea. i don't see it going anywhere to be honest bc i'm still hung up on the ex. but it sounds like you are doing new and exciting things! wow rock climbing? you have balls honestly - enjoy your time alone now. i'm trying to do the same. we came into this world alone, not with any guy attached to the hip
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