lawfer19 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 (edited) So we broke up a few months back probably around the end of March and started out April 2010. Our relationship started nicely like all relationships do but we didn't start of as an official couple because we didn't believe in labels but agreed to be exclusive. There was one time in May of that year that we fought because she'd be drinking with a mutual friend and two guys. I didn't trust our friend and her decisions that is why I was uncomfortable. And yes my gut feel got it right because two months after that, my girlfriend confessed that she cheated on me with one of the guys they were with that night. That day when she confessed, I didnt talk to her but then she was rather drunk that I still took care of her. That week she purposely dodged me at school out of shame and coz she's scared of me. But even when I was really hurt, I was still the one who reached out. I didn't break up with her then. But throughout the two years that we were together, we always fought. At times due to that, especially when she had her "moments" which is her experience with that guy which she says she regrets a lot. And a lot of times because I'm easily annoyed. But before we ventured to the relationship I already gave her the heads up that I'm like that. There were a lot of times that I wanted to give up because of the hurt that is why we were on and off because I break it off but then the next day when I'm okay it seems like nothing happened because in the first place I didn't really want to break up. But in March this year when I broke up with her and felt okay the next day, she said that we should give each other sometime because we are both hurt and that she's especially hurt because I always blame her. Up until mid May we were still okay and I thought we'd be back together but then one night we fought again and she told me she doesn't want me back anymore. And this just sucks because June I transferred to a job near hers. By June we still went out every now and then but then one day when we met up for lunch she was teary eyed when she told me she's already with someone else and that they just got together the night before. She cried as I stared blankly on her. From then until September I was desperate to get her back but I just hurt myself in the process. I texted her a lot and sometimes she'll reply because she said she still cares for me and sometimes she replies to make me stop. I already deleted her over facebook and deleted her number but I just don't know how to move on because I still love her and I'm the kind who doesn't know how to give up because I always feel like trying is always the best option. Especially because one time she told me that we'd still be together if I hadn't broken up with her. And I just can't help but regret breaking up with her. I'm immensely stupid and I still love her but I don't know if I still know how to love. Edited October 14, 2012 by lawfer19
KatZee Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 This girl is trash. That's what you need to realize, and that's how you'll start moving on. She cheated on you! She's a liar and a cheater! Liars and cheaters aren't capable of "true love" they're only interested in what THEY want and what THEY need. Can you see how tremendously you love this person? Do you think she even felt 1/10th of this emotion when she was out screwing that other guy? Of course not. And don't listen to her bulls.hit of "Oh if you didn't break up with me we'd still be together." She's trying to make you feel bad, feel guilty, pass off the responsibility for the demise of the relationship. She destroyed it the second she cheated. You deserve much better than this, and there ARE faithful women out there who will care for you and give you just as much love as you give them. Instead of thinking about how you should make it work with such a garbage person with no morals, turn your efforts inwards. Ask yourself why you think this is the best you deserve. Find out why you'd continue to gravitate towards a person who doesn't have your best interests at heart, and who would betray you with no second thought. You should be thanking God you're not with this person and you had the strength to end it. Nothing about this is love. Stop regretting your decision because you actually made the RIGHT one. Some people (like myself) stay with their cheaters and actually wind up in much worse places. I can't even tell you the torment I had staying with mine, and how horrible I felt with him and how low he made me feel. I wish I had had the strength to tell him to f.uck off when I found out.
Author lawfer19 Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 She has always told me that she's more hurt than I am with what she did and the reason we broke up the last time is because although she feels bad about what happened, she believes that she didn't cheat because we had no labels then.
KatZee Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 She has always told me that she's more hurt than I am with what she did and the reason we broke up the last time is because although she feels bad about what happened, she believes that she didn't cheat because we had no labels then. Mhm. Classic cheater mentality. Blame shifting. She's more hurt than you? Really? She wasn't the one betrayed. And if she was "so hurt" she would be bending over backwards to regain trust and work things out. Instead, she ends the relationship and makes excuses that you had "no labels" and acts sick of the drama. Whatever. Let this chick go.
Tiera D Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Judge a Person with the action,not with the words katzee said it all TD
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