Greeniydgirl Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 A few nights ago I had a dream about my ex (broke up 2 years ago, NC for 7 months). In this dream, I was frantically looking for him and desperate to see, and talk to him. After I woke up, I felt sad, like I am betraying my current boyfriend in some way. I love my boyfriend but not in the way I loved my ex. I thought my ex and I were 'meant to be'. Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend deserves better than me and the baggage I carry with me. But other times I try to convince myself that I'm worthy of a good man who treats me nicely. And than other times, I still wish I was with my ex...please nobody think I'm a horrible person, I'm trying to do my best.:,(
KatZee Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I think you need to be single and you need to face your demons and move on from the past relationship on your own. I don't think you're being fair to your current boyfriend who probably loves you as much as you loved your ex. It's not right to essentially use him to try to move on, and I think in your case, this may lead to the possibility of cheating down the line if you DO meet someone you feel a stronger connection to. I went through this with one of my past exes. I was with him but didn't love him like I had loved the boyfriend prior to him, but he treated me well and I didn't really have any reason to leave him. I wound up meeting a guy in passing, and we started a friendship, and I wound up emotionally cheating on my bf, and leaving him for that guy. All because the connection we had really wasn't what I had felt in the past, and the new guy provided that connection. I'm sure I would have been classified as the classic GIGS case but I wound up hurting that guy tremendously.
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