RyTom21 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 My name is Ryan. I'm 28 years old. I have no friends and I've never had a girlfriend. It goes without saying that I am a virgin. I'm very embarrassed about that. But here's the thing...* I had a really rough childhood. In the 5th grade I was diagnosed with a high functioning form of autism called Aspergers Syndrome. I was always viewed as being different and weird. I have spent a large majority of my life being called ugly and treated like dirt. Nobody wanted to be my friend and I got turned down for more dates than I can count. My first kiss was from a girl named Amy. I later found out that her friends dared her to kiss me. She didn't want to at all.* My date took off 30 minutes into prom, with no explanation.* In high school a woman approached me during lunch time and started talking to me. It seemed pretty obvious to me that she was flirting, so after 30 minutes of talking, I asked for her phone number. She laughed in my face.* In high school I asked out a woman I liked. She said she wasn't interested in dating anyone at the moment. The next day, I overheard one of the school jocks asking her out and she said she'd love to. * Another time I asked a woman out, and she said that she would like to, but she was moving to Europe in a week. I saw her at my local grocery store 2 weeks later. Those are just some of the things I've gone through. I was always treated like nothing more than a friend, and the thought of me as anything more was laughable. Now, It has been almost ten years since high school ended, and my past has followed me. I still feel like that awkward teenager. Now, I settle for any girl who shows interest, because I still think so little of myself that I don't bother to go after the women I actually want.*I acknowledge that I am above average in the looks department. Also, I don't want to sound conceited, but I possess most of the qualities that women say they want in a man. But the way I feel about myself inside cancels all of that out..Recently i thought I had found a girl who was interested in me. She asked me to help her move. I thought it would be a great opportunity to get to know her. Then after moving the last box, I got the "let's just be friends" speech. She used me.*I am a nice sweet funny guy who has always just wanted someone to share his life with. But I fear that I am going to be in the same place in my life 10 more years from now. Depressed and alone. Putting on a brave face in public, and crying in private.* How can I move on from my past?
madjac74 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 You are a better man than me. I didn't even go to prom. And a note on those girls that laughed in your face...I had a crush in high school who I had the best time with and yet she turned me down because "She only dated guys who drove"...later on she got fat and facebooked me how she always had a crush on me...who is laughing now?
Later82012 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I am not from this country, but why is it drilled into most peoples' brains that being a virgin is an embarrassment? Just because people tell you that you are ugly and dirt you don't become it. In fact those that put you down are the ones that are ugly from the inside. You yourself say that you are above average in the looks department. Now you just need to improve your personality and look for the right girls at the right places.
madjac74 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I am not from this country, but why is it drilled into most peoples' brains that being a virgin is an embarrassment? Just because people tell you that you are ugly and dirt you don't become it. In fact those that put you down are the ones that are ugly from the inside. You yourself say that you are above average in the looks department. Now you just need to improve your personality and look for the right girls at the right places. Ummm I didn't say I'm above average in the looks department. Also there is nothing wrong with my personality...Who was this thread about me or you?
Later82012 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 It seems to me that people are sleeping with anything just to save themselves from societal pressure.
Later82012 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Ummm I didn't say I'm above average in the looks department. Also there is nothing wrong with my personality...Who was this thread about me or you? My comments were for the OP Ryan.
madjac74 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 My comments were for the OP Ryan. Ugh! I'm terribly sorry, later!
Later82012 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Ugh! I'm terribly sorry, later! No problem. It's perfectly alright. I should have quoted him, but his post was way too long.
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