Mspink702 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 We've been broken up for 4 days, (he left me for another woman) today was the 2nd day of NC and it hurts sooo bad! I just want to cry and i cant eat or sleep i just dont know what to do with myself! I know I have to take this time to focus on me, but how can I do that when all I think about is him and what him and his new b are doing! I'm literally making myself sick over thinking what they might have done today sexual or otherwise. I get it he met someone and that obviously makes it so much easier to let me go, but can a person really be so heartless after 5 years? He didn't even shed a tear and matter of fact he told me I was making him uncomfortable when I was crying! He broke up with me and then had the audacity to say I was making him uncomfortable! Then he told me thanks for always being there for him (my car, money) is all that means. And he said we will be friends forever and he gave me a hug and he left! When does the pain go away!?
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Well it's going to be a while, you need to realize that and you need to understand that you have work to do. First things first, you need to grieve. Actively grieve now, take time to yourself (in the shower, bedroom, by yourself) and force yourself to think of the bad (which used to be good) memories. THIS IS KEY, don't fault yourself while you're doing it! Instead picture it as the other person is dead/gone never coming back "it's over, I'll never experience (blank) with him/her again" NOT "why am I not good enough, what did I do". First step is grieving/crying and understanding that you have lost. You'll see in a week that crying becomes harder. As you grieve, those memories become much less impact full on your emotions. When you've cried your last tear you're ready to focus on yourself. I wrote a guide from the research I've done to try and speed up the process here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/351364-my-guide-how-get-over-them-fast. I'm not 100% but am doing 100% better than day 1. Also follow the advice on LS from other more established members. You've got a long road ahead, you've got work to do, you're going to love your "finished product". Might not seem like it now, but you'll learn so much and improve so much in the next coming months that you'll thank him for leaving you. I'm sorry for your loss and I wish you luck.
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