larklane Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Going to try to be brief, met this guy through a work party two years ago started going out for about 2 months and he went MIA (keep in mind we never had sex) he told me had met someone else and didn't know what my expectations were and ended things. I really liked this guy and eventhough it hurt me we didn't make a committment and I realized that I wasn't clear on my intentions with him i was a bit hot/cold, but I told him that day when he ended things that I did have romantic feelings for him. He told me we could be friends but I declined saying that I had feelings for him and didn't want to "hang out" with him. Months go by without any contact and we see eachother again at a party (by then I knew things had ended with the person he was dating about 3 months after he ended it with me so it was short lived). Anyway we saw eachother at the party and sparks flew he initiated physical contact and after that he would text and contact me. We were like this for about 3-4 months and I thought that we were going to start things, its a little dicey because his company does business with a company i work for. So work comes into play...anyway over the summer we didn't get to see eachother because we were so busy but when we did see eachother we were very romantic and he told me I could come over to his house whenever I wanted, he met my best friend and I met some of his friends. Then from mid-july until October I did not hear from him (i sent him one text message on Labor day but refused to send anything else) i went no contact because I felt his disappearance was a sign of no interest eventhough he was all over me the previous time i saw him..then last week I received a text from him saying he just now saw my text message (a whole month later) and asked me how I was doing. He then emailed me the next day at work asking me about a project that he wanted his company to work on..I ignored both the text and email because I was pissed but ultimately I really liked the guy and gave in and replied back to the text and email a couple days later. He came in this week to my office for a work meeting and asked me to go with him to lunch to catch up--he commented on how nice I looked, was very chivalorous opened doors for me and commented how next summer I will be the first person to come over for his pool party etc. (he's renovating his backyard) he also told me that he was extremely busy at work (he is a small business owner) and that he got into an accident --i know this for a fact b/c he was driving a rental. So anyway we had a good lunch talked caught up and whne he dropped me back at work I just gave him a hug and i left. We emailed for a bit yesterday about work stuff but I've been laying low waiting for his next move. I'm just unsure about how I feel about things, he's never lied to me , but i just have a feeling that maybe he met someone during the time he was MIA. I hate that I've been snooping online going through his FB friends (we're not FB friends, b/c I didn't want to be his fb friend unless we were in a relationship) trying to see if there are any girls he's recently become friends with are a romantic interest and in the process have drivien myself crazy). Now I don't know what to do...I know he's a good guy and I don't feel like he would take advantage of me to get business from me, but sometimes I wonder what his intentions are, why would he come back into my life start dishing out compliments and pretend like nothing ever happened? I just don't know if he's being friendly or truly interested in me? I want to give him the benefit of the doubt and give it one more shot so I don't have any "what if" questions lurking, I also know its not about sex b/c we haven't had it yet--which has left me confused because when he saw me last time he told me how beautiful and sexy I was..so I'm surprised he hasn't tried anything on me yet?
immitable Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 (edited) from a male point of view: he's got all the elements of attraction: mystery, pool he's building, party (you at the party competing with dozen other babes), hot and cold attitude etc - just enough to make you fall for him. He sees you as a potential booty call. You start a relationship or make a move when you are interested. When you are not completely interested (in terms of relationship and this works on a subliminal level) you start making excuses like: I got in an accident, you know I am too busy, I have this small firm and it is very hectic I'll call you etc. Cheers Edited October 14, 2012 by immitable
Author larklane Posted October 19, 2012 Author Posted October 19, 2012 Well, we've been chatting and he's been very sweet and thoughtful, he asked me to come out to an event his company is hosting so I'm going tonight and testing the waters..
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