Danb32 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Hi everyone, I'm just confused! My girlfriend of 2 years left me... (blah blah). We didn't speak for a week or so and now were acting better than ever together, never argue, laugh all the time etc. Everyone on here says go NC go NC, get over her, but this forum is about second chances, not getting over someone. Do I carry on like this, ask if shes interested in a new us say.... a months down the line, or listen to the forum and go NC? SHE left me, surly ME going NC is going to make her life easier.... she decided to and gained the balls to actually leave me..
Author Danb32 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 and as well..... couples DO get back together, how?! you never hear of it on here because as soon as things are back, coming on this site is the last thing you want so we never hear about it! DID they get them back NC? DID they get them back by showing your different (like I'm doing now?) argh!
CarrieT Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 There was a guy who came here several years ago for advice how to get his GF back via NC. They were apart for several months, he worked it, they got back together, and (as I learned from FB last week), she gave birth to his son and they are thrilled. Yes, it is possible.
Million.to.1 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 people give advice based on 2 things. 1. the evidence presented. 2. what has worked best for them and for others who have been in similar situations. You are right. This is the second chances forum. Since you are new here, I would strongly suggest reading through this forum for a few hours. Search through and find some stories similar to yours. Read the threads through and look at how things worked out and what people went through in the process. Go and find some successful second chances threads. Sometimes, as a reader of someone elses story, you can be more objective to the reality of their situation. They are in in and can't see it clearly and resist what they are being told by other people. You probably won't though and will just keep posting threads for weeks and months waiting for someone to tell what you want to hear. But the fact is, no one can. Doing some reading would be really really helpful. It really helped me during my break-up and i'm glad 10 months later i took the time early on to read stories and see how certain decisions or actions worked out for others before i made the same ones. 1
Author Danb32 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 I do understand what your saying yeah. I feel I'm in a good position in terms of me. I just don't know where to go FROM here. She left because she said she didn't want a relationship. (now STOP, don't post this means she wants to bang others, stop!) I'm listening to her words. I feel she left because things were a bit too much and I was always the nice guy and she walked over me. Since she left me, I've maned up, I don't act needy to her, act independent, make decisions, have a life, don't moan if a guy looks at her, show her I'm different. We now get on better than we ever did before. I THINK what I'm going to do is spend a couple more weeks fun and relaxed, maybe go a weekend somewhere, and then ask her about a new us, and if not, THEN go NC...to move on. I can't think any more logical way of doing things. Sure I potentially put myself up for a couple more weeks suffer, but at least then i KNOW. It just sucks, you read posts like 'is this a second chance?' and people just assume things and turn it horribly bad, and just say NC her/him.
larklane Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 There are success stories, but I think the only time it works is when both people spend time a part and either grow and change and then meet up again. Change takes time, I think i would give a guy I dated another chance if he made the changes that I thought were necessary for us to be in a healthy & loving relationship, but those real changes only happen through sufficient time a part so everyone has the opportunity to grow. hope that helps..
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