jim40 Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 Well, here I am again. I have been seeing a girl for year now. Long story short, I received a written invitation to a party from her good friend. She has only known her for about 4 months. I dont really like her because she drinks excessively with my now ex and I dont like it....who would? Her husband is supposed to be cheating on her. My ex and I went out last friday night and I caught that friend hooking up with someone so I started questioning what they really do when they go out. Well, my ex's friend cancelled my invitation to her party because she was afraid I might say something to her husband. My ex said she was going to go anyways....I didnt think it was right...I got pissed...she said it was over. She tried to contact me through text 2 days ago to ask if I wanted to help clean up her property. I didnt respond. I havent spoken to her in 3 days and I tell you what....its freakin hard!
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 She should have told her friend its not my fault I caught her cheating. Its wrong of my ex to go to the party without me. I was invited and she should have not gone and told her friend something to the effect that if I cant go, she isnt going. Its just wrong...
Minnie09 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I agree. She should've shown loyalty. Now you know who has priority in her life. It's also odd that the friend cancelled your invitation. She could have just told you not to say anything. There must have been some more of a conflict going on between you. Your exgf probably wasn't as committed to your R as you thought. Sorry about that. maybe she will come to her senses and find out that she's lost something precious. I wish you all the best.
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 I'm not a priority. I am "jealous of her friends". Pshhh....gimme a break.
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 I'm not going to lie...this is tough...really tough!
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 I dont know what to do but I think I should go no contact. Its hard...
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 Unreal....she just called at 2am in the morning, drunk, at the party. I knew it...she would go to the party, get her way, then beg me back.
Minnie09 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 How has your R been in general? Have you been living apart/together? How old are you guys? Tell us a little.
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 She is 45...I am 40. I dont live with her but she wanted me to move in. Alot of the arguments come from me not trusting her, her putting everything before me and other crap. On new years, I couldnt make to be with her...she didnt wait for me so I got angry and cussed her out, called her names. 6 months later, I found out she ended up in a hotel room that night with her friend....with 2 black guys.
mammasita Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Not sure why the color of the guys matters..... Anyway, this 45 year old woman sounds like a mess. Why, at 45, is she getting drunk and partying until all hours of the night like a teenager? She doesn't sound like she's grown up yet.
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 Color doesnt matter. I know...no priorities. I know how she operates. She went to the party last night knowing she could just say she is sorry the next day and get me back. She called at 2 am probably to let me know silently that she wasnt screwing around.
mammasita Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I think you can do better. I'm 37 and wouldn't put up with that kind of behavior...at all.
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 I know I can. I dont understand why I keep putting up with it.
mammasita Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I know it's hard. I'm guilty of dragging out the inevitable, matter of fact I may be in a situation that I'm prolonging right now. A some point though, enough has to be enough.
Author jim40 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 Yep...the only way...and I mean THE ONLY WAY I will ever get respect and stop these stupid games, is if I go away...and stay away. Its sad....
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