kyle77 Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 When your with someone obviously the relationship should be balanced so that it has an even give and take. So how do you decipher when you should be giving and when you should be taking? I want an equal relationship so I don't want to give too much and end up being a doormat but at the same time I don't want to be selfish and do nothing.... I want to keep my pride and dignity while showing this current girl I am "with" that she is really special to me....so how do I show her that without going overboard. It is in the beginning stages, so any advice is appreciated!
River Rain Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I'd say start off without the idea of game-playing. Yes, all relationships are give and take, but don't overthink it so much. If you like the girl, show her. If she likes you she will show you back.
HeldbyGravity Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 (edited) When your with someone obviously the relationship should be balanced so that it has an even give and take. So how do you decipher when you should be giving and when you should be taking? I want an equal relationship so I don't want to give too much and end up being a doormat but at the same time I don't want to be selfish and do nothing.... I want to keep my pride and dignity while showing this current girl I am "with" that she is really special to me....so how do I show her that without going overboard. It is in the beginning stages, so any advice is appreciated! I'd say just go with it too. Once you get closer to each other, it's going to be easier to establish how much to give and take. Ideally, if someone cares about you and you them, you shouldn't have to worry about that. I mean at first, in a new relationship, it's a little complicated. You're still feeling it all out, and it's confusing. You're not really giving and taking as much as testing things out. Once you get more comfortable around each other, you write little notes to each other, maybe get his/her favorite gum or something. They compliment you and you them. Just don't go too deep in and be buying her little things all the time, calling constantly and such. Just let it be . Take it step by step and focus on enjoying each other's company. Edited October 13, 2012 by HeldbyGravity 1
Author kyle77 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 the problem is like i want to text her all the time and see how shes doing but I dont want to come across to eager i guess....
HeldbyGravity Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 People text at all different frequencies, keep in mind. Doesn't show more care if someone texts more, or less care if they text less! But if you want to drop her a text every so often, do so. Just keep in mind that no one can realistically have the time to text all day xD. And that might be coming on a bit too strong! 1
monkey00 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 the problem is like i want to text her all the time and see how shes doing but I dont want to come across to eager i guess.... I'm seeing someone where we text daily. You don't always have to start it off with asking her how her day is all the time or what she's up to. You can say things like what you're up to or make plans over text. Like the above poster says, it's not about being eager. It just depends how frequently both parties want to keep in touch. Ideally I'd say both of you should take turns initiating texts.
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