BrokenDreamCatcher Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I was in a long term relationship. Well, we had broken a year ago. For his leaving and cheating. I then after 8 months, got into dating someone else. He then came back and cried and pleaded and promised how sorry he was, and that he would never hurt me again. I was his world, can't live without me, got crazy with it even, I mean acted like I have never seen him act cried so much, even visited my parents and cried to them for all he has done wrong..and blah blah blah. Only, I fell for it! Let him BACK IN. Things were ok, but when I pushed for us to get back together, he backed off and got all weird on me. But, then we started like dating again, then sleeping together again. I thought things were leading up to us getting back into a relationship, and making things work. Well recently, he had got a new job, and has to go to Dallas TX we live in FL for 5 weeks, for training. So he has been excited about that. So Thursday night we spent time together, everything was fine, he seemed a little jealous and questioned me about a guy friend of mine, and said when he is gone the 5 wks, would I get bored and spend time with my friend. I said no I would not do that, why would I? I said even though I am single, we are dating, and I am looking forward to when you get back, for us to do that. He agreed and also he said he wanted to work on making a baby wihen he got back. I then told him I loved him. He did not say it back. I got this funny feeling in my gut. I went home and thought to investigate his FB some. Well I found things I didn't want to find..like an old high school friend of his, I knew who she was, I knew her from before,and I seen they had been talking, he had liked alot of her pictures, and she tagged him a song dedication, God gave me you" by Blake Shelton. So I was upset, I made a comment on the tagged post. He then txts me pissed off at me, that I did that, and says he is done with me and done with all this insecurity I have. That was the first time I said ANYTHING! Yet he questions me about everything on my fb! Yet he is tired of my insecurity? When he is the one who did cheat on me! He then deletes me off FB and says, this trip to Dallas is a good thing, and I need to forget about him. He says he is cutting me out of his life! All because I made a comment?? Or because I FOUND HIM OUT??? That he has not changed one bit!! The only stupid one here is me! Should I warn the other woman? She just got out of a relationship, with her fiance and he is the father of her 5 yr old daughter. Or should I let her get involved with this lying, cheating, con artist!
Author BrokenDreamCatcher Posted October 13, 2012 Author Posted October 13, 2012 He trying to convince me she is just a friend. But, would he have acted so drastically, if there was not something going on? I mean just like that he wants nothing else to do with me, and deletes from FB, instagram, messengers. Deleted my family from his fb also. What is really going on here?
KatZee Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Let this guy go. He cheated. He's a liar and a cheat. I went back to my cheating boyfriend (recent ex) and he pulled this same s.hit with me. HE'S the one that had cheated. HE'S the one who had abused everything about my love, HE'S the one that broke the trust. And then when I'd ask him a question or want to discuss what happened so I could move on from it, he'd FLIP out. How he couldn't handle it, that I was so insecure, so jealous, so this so that. I never really brought it up often either, just in the beginning because I wanted all questions answered and I wanted to start fresh. Nope. He wasn't having any of it. He thought we could just sweep it under the rug, that he could go and still do whatever the hell he wanted and I'd be fine with it. Things don't work that way. My ex couldn't handle it at the end. I think that's why we really fell apart. He cheated, he confessed two years later, and he couldn't handle that he ruined us. Thought I wouldn't care that he cheated. (For real?) Your bf, or ex or whatever he is, isn't concerned about what he's doing. He cheated once, and he WILL cheat again. Sneaking around with his chick on FB kind of proves it. Even if he's not physically cheating, who is some chick to send songs like "God gave you to me?" and whatever other horsecrap she's writing? And if by chance it IS strictly platonic, he should have the common sense not to put that s.hit on facebook because all it does is screw with a cheatee's brain.
Author BrokenDreamCatcher Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 Thank You Katzee! I know just how you feel! You're right, they will NEVER change! He wants to act like I am the crazy one for getting upset, about some woman sending him songs like that. Well, guess what he told me?? He said it was cause he has helped her through a rough time, that she was going through with her ex. Yet, he is never there for me when I need him! What a damn joke! Yea, funny how they flip out when confronted. Yet, expect us to believe they are innocent!
Author BrokenDreamCatcher Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 I know I'm stupid..and after 9 yrs with this man, and dealing with cheating and lies from him. How could I believe anything that comes out of his mouth? I just don't know, I am so torn, I love him! We have been through so much together, in seems we have survived a lot. Now this..I was going to go NC, but like I had said he left for Dallas yesterday, well that morning, he started texting me, and trying to convince me that girl has a BF, I told him I do not believe it. I think he is just saying it, so I will not say anything to her, and ruin it for him! So he gets upset at me, and I said well if it's nothing going on, and she has a bf, then why did you get so freaked out and then block and delete me and my family suddenly off of your fb and instagram and such. Seems odd to me! He said "Oh I get get on the plane, I have other things to worry about." and stopped txting! Then last night, txt me saying he is there safe and settling in his room, txt me pics of his suite, and then says well I gotta get ready for work in the morning, I said " "Ok good luck and have a good day, goodnight." He never txt anything back. But, I found out that Saturday night, the night before he left for Dallas, he don't say a word to me, don't care to see me, yet I find he went and hung out with a bunch of friends, well SHE WAS THERE! Am I an idiot to doubt for one second, that he may be telling the truth?? Am I losing it and just paranoid cause of what I have been through? Could he be telling the truth? Yet before he is going away for 5 weeks, he don't give a damn to see me, but sees her! I'm so sick right now! I have half a mind to ask her about what is really going on! Should I??
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